CELLAR JAM BAND
 

yeah, i'm ok to jam, but not good enough to play out......I work too many hours too. ( car business)

who's the drummer?

I have a drum machine, along with Wolf's assortment.

I write lyrics and "sing"...I'd be down with it.

If we can figure out what to do about the delay, I could play guitar synth over the Internet.

We'd then be a Broadband Jam Band.

I'm in for general background vocals and simple harmonies.

Here's something I read today about relationships that I thought was very well said by one Dr. Stephen A. Mitchell.

"The cultivation of romance in relationships requires two people who are fascinated by the ways in which, individually and together, they generate forms of life they hope they can count on. It entails a tolerance of the fragility of those hopes, woven together from realities and fantasies, and an appreciation of the ways in which, in the rich density of contemporary life, realities often become fantasies and fantasies often become reality."

I wish i'd known about this place when my fiance dumped me.
I was on deployment in New Zealand. She played up, enjoyed it so much she gave me the arse (and genital warts courtesy of her new boyfriend) .
I could have done with a support network then but time became my friend.
I'm okay with myself now although i still struggle with the timing when trying to introduce the topic of STD's into the courtship process.
I spend my time now cultivating as many friendships as i can.
The kind of help and support needed during this type of crisis is seldom found in just one friend.
I also set (after the dumping) a bunch of achievable goals (physical and mental ) so, even though my thoughts were crazy, i was still getting results toward recovery.
I can still remember the day i realised that not only did i feel good physically but i was in a good mood as well. i kinda woke up and looked down and wondered where my gut had gone.
Joining a tennis club also helped.
At first i didn't want to burden my friends but i found they were excited to help ease the burden and some of the best companionship came from the least likely people.
Good luck UT

May the hand of justice of the universe have seen to it that hers are WORSE.

If you're talking to me Wolf then cheers for the sentiment. Guys are basically unnaffected but girls have to have regular tests forever to facilitate early detection of cervical cancer.
In an ironic twist, this served to alleviate the grief associated with a long term relationship breakup.
I'm just being glib as i'd have preferred the extended grief over the alternative, of course.
I gotta admit i was quite surprised and relieved to see a response to my post. I imagined a lot of sharp breath intakes and raised eyebrows followed by a subconscious decision to abandon this thread.

Actually, my first response on reading your post was "ohmigods, the poor sonovabeetch" followed almost immediately by "hope hers were a lot worse."

Thanks. Not to put you on the spot but at what point during courtship would you like to be informed of your suitor's um.. baggage?

That's a tricky one. I'd just say "before sex".

Well, Monday and Tuesday were met with no lingering low emotional points and no outbursts of irrational anger, and I'm more optimistic than ever this morning, looking forward to my new life.

Having this thread here has definitely helped, both in getting good words from people and in writing down what I thought was going on.

To surviving and thriving, onward to 2004.

(lifting my glass)

To Undertoad, kicking ass and taking names.


A La Salute!

Sounds like your in the groove, Skinny. :D
BTW, when you get this orchestra together, I'd like to volunteer for groupie control in that I've had experience.
There was a band called Children of the Night that played this area and the Jersey shore. A couple of the guys stayed at my house when they played in this area. Another band called Hyjinx would practice at my house once or twice a week. Both bands caused groupies to show up at my door, sometimes when they (bands) weren't even here.

Congrats to Toad for making it through a couple of days!!! My hats off to you man....... if I was wearing a hat......

For the Cellar band - I offer to do vocals of some sort. I'm more of a ballad/lounge act type of voice.....