That's fine til you fall head over heels with someone ;P

True, but Duck brings up a good point, it is a skill that you can practice. I'm a huge flirt, both with and without intent, but I do remember a time that I would get gooey lips and rubbery knees around a girl I liked. It wasn't just a one time guts-up moment of saying "What do I have to lose?" It was time after time of forcing myself to try, making a total ass out of myself (Can't count the number of times I accidentally called a girl fat by accident!) and it only got a little bit easier every time. It's something you need to practice...

How do you call someone fat by accident? :p

You all are right that I am just out of practice. In high school I had this awkward situation where I was not popular at all with the "cool" kids, but among my friends, a loose affiliation of geeks, punks and goths, I was enough of a queen bee that guys didn't think they could ask me out. :o So if I wanted to go out with anyone I had to do the asking myself, and I got used to it. It's been a long time since then, though, and apparently dating is not like riding a bicycle. :D

Haha, you'd be surprised. It'd usually happen if the girl was fishing for a compliment, and I wouldn't realize the connotation my words would have until they were half way out of my mouth.

Its about the mindset. Just try to keep the same mindset that you have around your friends when you are around someone you actually want to get with. You will be a lot funnier and less awkward that way.

I used to be very shy in high school and parts of last year but now it really depends on my mood, if I'm in a good one I can feel comfortable around anyone and if I'm in a bad mood I usually just avoid people.

I am also a huge flirt and I mess around with both guys and girls even though I am only attracted to girls and I like to keep people off balanced when I'm joking around. One minute playfully insult them then the next talk them up and random stuff like that.

Ohhh, PHE made me think of something.

Flirting can be influenced by how your mindset is, soooo, dress up in something you find really sexy....I know that sounds weird for sending emails...but....it will work.

I am truly surprised at how often I am told I am flirting, but am not intending to. My husband teases me sometimes about "flirting with my boyfriends" when I haven't even thought of it like that.

I get that A LOT. It's just how I interact with people I guess.