I think most of us knew, no apology necessary. She was a good woman and you're still a good man. peace bro

Extremely sad
 

I knew Rhoda in the late 80's - early 90's. She picked me up for drives when I didn't have a car, living quite a distance away...and we chatted about everything and anything.

We lost touch and I eventually moved to London.

She will always remain in my heart and in my mind. Both are heavy with sadness and regret.

Peace to you, Rhoda.

Love,

Scott

Sycamore, you have most heartfelt sympathy. I can only imagine how bizarre this must feel for you right now, having spent so much of your life with Lady Sycamore.

X Dana

Welcome to the Cellar, Bearfeet. Sorry you had to come here under such sad circumstances, but please come back again. :(

Syc, all of us here who know you know that there's no picnic, no guarantee, no holier than thou in life. What is important is that you took the time to share news with us about someone we all had in common; someone whom we all took to our hearts, as you did in your time with Rhoda.

No harm, no foul. We were all blessed her time here, and with yours. I hope you can find your way back here a little more often sometime soon, and share with us where your life is heading now.

I am very sorry for your loss.

We have lost too many good people lately. and clearly she was one of them.

A eulogy
 

We tend to say that someone died too young or too soon when they die before age 50 or so. And I know that it has been said in the case of Rhoda's recent passing.

But we merely do that for convenience and comfort. We don't like to think that God would take someone from us so young or subject them to an incredible amount of pain and suffering. But the Lord works in mysterious ways, and I think He has a specific plan for each of us...He just gives us some leeway to make our own choices.

I'm not sure what Rhoda's exact purpose on this Earth was...only God knows that. But each of us had our own unique experience with her. Rhoda inspired me to move halfway across a country, taught me about African-American culture and thinking and was with me when I took my first steps in an ocean. She put up with all my bullshit for 6 years and was one of the few people on this Earth who truly understood me. Though I disagree with the way she handled her illness, she dealt with it on her own terms...it was the last thing she felt she controlled in her life.

Unfortunately, I had almost no contact with her during the last year of her life, and from what I've heard, she suffered a great deal. But she will suffer no more. I am sure that she is looking down on us today with her dad, her brother and all her relatives and friends that got up there first.

Though Rhoda and I were not meant to be life partners, I still love her a great deal, and always will. I want to say that she was taken from us too soon, but I know better...and Heaven is probably a way cooler place than Earth.

I love you, Kitty...and I'm glad you're finally at peace.

Tragic. I feel so badly for Rho's mom. Thaks for letting us know Syc, I'll send her a card.

Words just aren't enough Syc. thanks for letting us know.

I'm very sorry for your loss, Syc & those who loved her. May you find peace and healing with her memory.

Sycamore, I am so sorry for your loss. I remember Rho from the first days of my lurking here. You and her were two of my favorite people on the cellar. I remember her position as one of the only solid voices in the middle of a flame war...she never seemed to get sucked into the emotional cluster that often ensued. I was sad when she left the cellar, and now, I am very sad to know I will never read another one of her witty remarks.

I was proud that she enjoyed my CMEP CD the first round (late 2003, I think?) She was a lady of great taste, so I was flattered.