haha youse two is funny.


Seriously, I missed the bit about them not going. I knew there was messing around with scheduling.

It's ok Dr Zen. Put ur nozes back in ur booksez and don't worrez. ;)

I have very mixed feelings about lots of things today. In fact, I'm quite conflicted.

As mentioned, Aden has this g/f, and she's really lovely. I can see why he wants to spend so much time with her, but her parents are making it hard for them, so I try to be supportive by allowing Aden to spend time with her whenever they happen to agree to it at the expense of any plans I might have made for us.

This is ok except that I'm really starting to get the shits with her parents for being such idiots about it all. Every time they want to do something it's got to be a big fucking family drama for them and so we get drawn into it because Aden gets upset about not being able to see her, which I think is understandable.

someone should just blow some parents up so that parents like me don't have to keep being so fucking reasonable all the time!

all is well. yay.

Ali--I meant "exposed" to such crap. They don't have to see the impact to feel an impact, if you see what I mean. You haven't been there, (I guess) but you've heard of it, they can hear of it too. Regardless, this kind of behavior is wrong, and it's sad and aggravating and harmful to the kids as well. Parents are models.

bigV - 'yay' as in they/you found the possibly missing person?

ali - HOW do you cook and drink? if I did that my cakes would come out looking really...horrible - they might even end up on the floor.

I have mixed feelings about my sinus cavities.
I know I need them to breathe - it's just that they are a poor design. Where can I file suit against the manufactuer?

That's the subtle difference between "cooking and drinking" and "drinking and cooking"

Yep Bri, my missing person is safe and sound. Happy me.

Well, I have been there V. That's one of the reasons why I left their father.

I just thought he might have changed by now. Learned his lesson. You know, that thing smart people do when their life keeps going to shit?

I have protected them from it all their lives. He's been like this with every woman he's been with. He's even had a couple of DVO's (domestic violence orders) against him in the past.

So, I'm glad he's not having them this Christmas. Particularly now I know that his wife is definitely leaving him soon. I spoke to her again last night and she's told her mother everything and has been encouraged to go back home to Samoa so the family can look after her and the baby. I think that's the best idea of all. He still has no idea any of this is going on, which is probably for the best.

The kids have known about his violence since they were very small. Unfortunately when someone behaves that way, kids know because no matter how hard you try, that person will always lose it when you think everything is fine. Fortunately he's never physically abused them, but they are both afraid of his bullying.

They fear their own father's bullying? That is damage enough. Good thing they're not going.

If he mistreats his Samoan wife ... he'd better watch his back. Samoans have big families and bigger shoulders.

I'm sorry you and your boys had to go through that shit. There's lemonade and silver linings and all that happy crap, whatever. That's just shitty though. I'm glad you sound so good, and I've always smiled to hear the reports of your sons' developments and adventures. Good for them and good on you.

Well Kal is Samoan too of course, but I don't think his family will really have anything much to do with any fall out, mostly because he's always been the black sheep. God the stories I could tell you about his family. lol Anyway, it was a good day when I left and took my boys with me, and we're lucky enough to have a good husband and father figure in Dazza. Can't beat the academics hey Zen? ;)

We're lucky V. I think we got out just in time and life is pretty good for us now. Honestly, I feel sorry for Kal, I really do. I see a man in his 50's with no one who loves him enough to want to be with him anymore. That's a very sad life to be living. I just wish he could learn, because he's missing out on a couple of pretty awesome sons.

His choices, his loss, Dazza's and their gain.

I got a text from the homeless guy today. He's living in another state now. He sent me a picture from his phone that he took of Gaines. It made me cry. His silvery bluish double coat fur...so pretty. He also said I could claim him on my taxes this year (he lived here for what, half of last year? It's legal) and if I got money back I keep half and send him half. I don't mind doing that...but I don't know if I'll get much back anyway...the making work pay credit saved my butt and it's gone.

He went on to tell me his sis has cancer. She still lives here. Fuck cancer. He said life is short and can suck (and really, his family has been through hell and back) and that I did a lot for him, and he has no ill feelings.

I have no ill feelings either. I never could hold a grudge and don't like harboring old resentments. I can't forget what he put me through on one hand, but on the other it was nice to hear, for once, that he recognizes what I did for him.

But, he's a charmer, and when he's nice like that it's very easy for me to forget that it was pure hell for a while, him being here.

Still, he's thousands of miles away and can't hurt me now. I mean, I let it go on, being too nice and too wimpy...and he took excellent advantage of that.

Just a very odd moment in time.

Dude, that's bullshit. You can claim him as a dependent because he was a fucking dependent, not because he graciously allows you to claim him. If he files for himself, and you file for him as a dependent, and one of you ever gets audited, they can look into the reality of the situation... which is that he lived with you more than half the year and he had no job and you weren't married. Thus, he was a dependent, and they will come down on his ass for his illegal tax return.

Besides that, a dependent will get you a bigger refund, it's true, but it's not going to double it. Don't let this asshole take half your money and think he's doing you a favor! Seriously, I want to go kick him in the cunt right now, especially for sending you a picture of your cat just to make you more vulnerable before asking for your money. And you can tell him I said that.

Ugh. Yeah, I know. I know you're right.

I did file him as dependent last year...but not the year before because his sister claimed him. Even though he was living here and, as you say, unemployed. And I let that happen too. I think about other ways I was scammed...crap.

And I think I needed to hear it from someone else, I guess that's why I posted it in the 'mixed feelings' thread.

Thanks. I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me that. I also loved the kick him in the cunt part. :)

Sometimes I wonder if I am susceptible to absolutely every scammer on earth. I guess that's why I have trouble with close relationships: I don't trust myself to know better. I'm an educated intelligent person. I'm all bravado and chutzpah...except not.

Clod, really, thank you. You can't know what you just did for me.

Godfobble.

I was thinking he meant half the extra you got for claiming him, but he didn't did he?

I have mixed feelings about the contents of my stomach this morning.

It's not too late to get rid of it.

You're so not helpful HLJ. lol This is not the first time you've made that comment.

Oh, I meant your breakfast.

I know, right? No wonder I'm jealous of her. :)

In retrospect, no. Another thing, how does he know when I'm in a good mood? I mean, there couldn't have been a better time lately to "approach" me. Puh. What's that called? When you just fall into shit and come out smelling like roses?

Shithead, that's the word I'm looking for.

You're good to be rid of him.

Politics?

Sen him a bill. And let him know not to expect anything IF you get a return as you will just deduct it from the gazillions he owes you for putting him up and putting up with him. Frikking jerkoff.

NO! wait!

...gardening. You shouldn't have given him all that practice burying those hobos.......

:)

Thanks, all.

(Why are there five guests reading this?)

ghosts of dead hobos -well 4 of them.... and Homeless Guy

Doubtful. The HG, not the hobos. :lol:

not so sure....

Well now there are six.

Do you think I'm being stalked?

Hi. Do you think Infi's being stalked? Because that's a bad move.

Infi has friends in high places. Infi is infinite. Infi can put the smack down on you.


What?


:lol:

Infi ... WOT CLOD SAID!

Cat photo + sob story + request for money = being manipulative psycho stalker user leech parasite.

I hope you have changed your locks. If you ever gave him a key, he probably had it copied.

Now go change the locks on your head and your heart so he can't sneak back in there. He obviously knows you and how to butter you up.

Not a good person. Avoid.

I have mixed feelings about my mixer and just how it goes about combining all of those ingredients and in what order they are actually combined, on a molecular level.

Oh no way, do not be. You know your teeth? It seems my daughter has them too. We just found out she's got 3 more cavities, including one under a sealant, because she's just that talented. This time she's going fully under, and the dentist said he's going to seal the shit out of all of them, give her dentures of solid polymer.

*really admiring Clodfobble's wisdom and insight right now despite her daughter's dental cavitation*

It does not take wisdom to see that Homeless Guy is an asshole, and to swear and make bodily threats to him. I just happened to get to the thread first. I was actually feeling kind of embarrassed after my post last night because I was irritated at something else and thought maybe the aggression was kind of uncalled-for, though I do still believe wholeheartedly in the sentiment. I seriously do not understand this starstruck thing you guys have going on.

I suspect that when it comes to posting, you don't swing unless you know you're going to hit it. So your hit/miss ratio is pretty good. But you are aware of all the reject thoughts that you never post, so your view of yourself is clouded (tempered? more based in reality? not sure which word to use here) by those reject thoughts.

Or maybe you're just modest too.

Well, that's true. It's not just thoughts, either, at least 25% of the time I actually type stuff into the reply box and then change my mind and don't post it. I don't know how often other people do that, except Flint once mentioned that he does it all the time too. It takes me 30 minutes to write one little email, because I edit and edit until it's exactly the way I want. I've always been terrified of looking like an idiot, and when people praise me too much I start to think that they're actually just making fun of me.

Shit. She's on to us.

If only I could manage to do that... you all would be a lot happier :)

We're not making fun of you.

We're not laughing at you, we're laughing near you.

I delete about 10% of my posts. Sometimes I realize that I'm just posting for my own sake and not really adding anything to the discussion. This happens more often in the outside world, than here in the Cellar. A lot of comments sections are just shit right now.

This.

My recipe for achieving excellence.



With a small side order of bone-crushing self doubt.

Clodfobble, the fact that you felt compelled to respond meant a lot to me, especially now in the light of the fact that you take your time with posts. Honestly, I figured my weird problem would just go unnoticed.

As to posts, I'm just the opposite. If it comes into my head I am likely to be rapid typing as the thoughts jumble all around themselves. I wear my heart on my sleeve...which is another reason I fall prey to the aforementioned 'manipulative psycho stalker user leech parasite.' (Thanks Zen, I couldn't have said it better myself.)

I would love if I were less impulsive. But, I'm not. ;)

The above post is not to say that I don't often feel extreme regret at something I've posted. I know bone crushing self doubt. It's my roommate. :)

I'm sure we all regret things we've posted. But I hear what your saying.

I type slowly, and that helps me try to focus my thoughts a little more than I would otherwise. Plus, I delete about 10% of my posts without posting.

I usually read all the posts I want to read first and think about them as I'm reading through the rest, then go back and reply.

Well, that's what I do THESE days. lol It's not what I USED to do.

Three new students starting next week all with severe behaviors and the tightwads at county will resist paying for one-to-one aides. (vs) I have a job in this shit economy.

It looks like Lil' Pete has picked her school. The program is well designed and right down her alley. (vs) Some of the other majors at the school make me question its institutional seriousness. This may me me being a bigot. (vs) It looks like it is evolving with the times.

What school, dare I ask?

Philly U in Industrial Design

Nice!

Thanks! I think I'm just nervous about my first-born taking a big step into the world.

I hear you. We just let my MIL drive our emergency back-up child to the park in Bennington. First time ever.

I tell you, they are wearing me down. It's become a battle of attrition. (harder)

Pete's Mom and Step-Dad are terrible drivers, I feel your pain.

Heir-lina is back

were you compelled to return MIL's damage deposit?

I am an understudy child.
If older sister had not been normal and spawned, it would have been down to me.
My bro is son and heir. But Dad's older brother already had two sons, so the family heritage was in no doubt.