Not so much today, but yesterday.
And not so much upsetting, but best for this thread.

Breda was cremated yesterday (Mum's friend who died of cancer in case you don't read the cancer threads).
At first I found it very upsetting. I fought my way out of it - she was Mum's friend, not mine and if Mum wasn't crying I'd be damned if I would (this passes for good behaviour in Mum's mind). It was seeing the coffin brought in, knowing the lads carrying it and their relationship to her - son, son in law, surrogate sons (she was such a generous woman) and knowing what they carried. And then seeing her daughter. Mum counts her as pretty hysterical as a person, but although she was sobbing she did have great dignity.

The formality of the Mass soothed me though. As it seemed to do to everyone. The people crying at the beginning were mostly just sniffling by Communion.

She had a wonderful turn-out. The church can take 200 at a squeeze - and does at Christmas and Easter, with both galleries open and even then you get people standing in the vestry - I'd estimate at least 100 yesterday. About the same as for a usual Mass. That's a lot.

I didn't go to the Crem. I don't like them. If I had a closer connection with her, of course I would have gone. My sister and family went - she was my niece's Godmother. But I felt I'd paid my respects and Mum had enough family support.

I went to the wake, although I hadn't intended to - I felt that perhaps I hadn't earned it, not going to the Crem. But Mum pushed and I'm so glad I did. They had a pseudo-marquee in the garden and it was decorated with blown up photos of her, and photo boards. I was so pleased to see Mum in four of them - she really was close and I know towards the end she felt a little left out. Fresh flowers, Irish music, shedloads of food and drink and hired tables and chairs. Many of her friends came together to provide either at cost (through contacts) or FOC, like Mum who made some buffet dishes.

In the end it was a celebration of her life.
I talked to her daughter, who was a lovely, tearless, totally unhysterical hostess.

I know Mum misses all the things they shared. I know it's not just a death, but a hole in her own life. But as her passing is a fact, I also know Mum's glad she was sent off in a way which would have delighted her. RIP.

Terrible as it is to lose a friend or family member, there is great comfort to be had from the right sort of send off. Hugs to you and your mum, SG.

Not nearly as bummer as SG's (so sorry, Sundae - it's been a helluva year, eh?) but my effing computer is not OK! I've got to buy a new one - and a paper is due on Monday so will have to write paper on an unfamiliar computer! :mad:

Neck, head and right shoulder ache. Work is slow and booooring!

Sorry for your mum's loss SG.



Oh and FUCK CANCER

Pretty much everything is pissing me off today. that is all. :mad:

Hangover?

nah. seasoned drinkers like me don't get em!

One of the cats had shat or puked on the landing

Car doors were frozen shut this morning -I had tried to clear out the garage to get the car(s) in yesterday, but had such a busy day was just too tired to stand up any longer, so cars stayed outside in first heavy frost ...as did my hibiscus plants because we forgot to drag them in despite saying "oh we must do that everyday this week.... and now they're dead....

I found an error in one of the swim clubs acoounting (made by me) which means we didn't make as much profit as we thought we did and currently lots of happy people are planning how to spend that $$$ same error caused the bank a/c alomost to go into the red, although hopefully I caught that in time, but it meant a special trip to the bank....

I had misplaced a check for a different organization (scrip for the school) and did find that -but after two hours so i didn't get the work done I waned to so now I have to do that tonight

I spilled coke everywhere -me cat, desk, keyboard, paperwork....

I couldn't order the new cellphone i wanted online so had to go through the torturous phone system

The online bank is still not sending transaction confirmations and they can't work out why and kept hanging up on me so I kept having to go through the security rigmarole

I only managed to spend 45 minutes working in the thrift store and had no time to shop

i was late for the scrip store at school so didn't get my sign out on the curb -which increases business.....

and the afternoon is yet young.....

wow I'd be cranky too.

So maybe you've got all of your bad luck over with and you can have a fabulous weekend.

Algebra.

Angles L and M are complementary. L= 14x+7 M= 20x+15

Srsly, I have no idea goddamnit. I need to get my kid a tutor or sit in on a couple 6th grade math classes. Fuck.

Complementary angles add up to 90 degrees. So L + M = 90.

(14x+7) + (20x+15) = 90

simplify. solve for x.

Yeah thats where Im stuck - I don't know how to solve for x. I know it's 2 I just don't know why.

Look in the kids book or online for simplifying algebraic expressions. You should find everything you need. Here's this one:

(14x+7) + (20x+15) = 90
14x + 7 + 20x + 15 = 90
34x + 22 = 90
34x = 68
x = 68/34
x = 2

(14x+7) + (20x+15) = 90

first of all put like terms together i.e. Xs together and numbers together:

14x + 20x + 7 + 15 = 90
>> 34x + 22 = 90

then get the Xs on one side and the numbers on the other. So this by subtracting 22 from each side

34x = 90= 22
>> 34x = 68

then divide both sides by 34 to get the value for 1x

x = 2

lemme lemme

(14x + 7) + (20x + 15) = 90

because of associative property of addition,
14x + 7 + 20x + 15 = 90

reduces to
34x + 22 = 90

subtract 22 from both sides
34x = 68

divide both sides by 34
x = 2