Thinking about it..
I've been very arrogant and trying to use my cane more instead of my wheelchair... I think I damaged myself worse doing it.
Between that and my implants battery dying, I really think the new pain level is what cause the stroke.
I hope this helps.

I'll tell you this because I have a degree in Early Childhood ed and not because I like to watch Supper Nanny :p

A 5 year old is way old enough to understand the concept of 'US'
SO make him/her a co partner with the two of you. Something special like a job to help with the baby like tokens in a jar or stickers. You can make her something special just for her and when she is nice to the baby she can have them. Every time she is nice it needs to be noted and tracked. A job just like mom and dad have jobs to do with the baby.
That's very basic but something like that will work if she is made to feel a part of a team. Like you need her help SO much but she'll need a tangible reward for appropriate behavior. Something she can see and collect. ...the collection part is a biggie. A jar or poster board of rewards she can look at always. :)

Thanks sky, but it's beyond being nice or not, he already resents being asked to help in any way with the toddler. He will wait very patiently until we are turned away for a second, then shove him down, or pinch, or hit him, and then claims it was an accident when the baby starts screaming.

It has gotten more under control now though--as always, this kid doesn't respond to punishments very well, but he especially seemed to respond to the one lecture where he was accused of being a "bully," that word really upset him and he's been behaving better since.

I sounds like you have it under control then. I am sorry you're having a rough time of it.

Yes. It does help. Someone's pain level causing their stroke just because they were trying to be more mobile really makes me feel like a douche for thinking I ever had a problem.:redface:
Thank you for the sincerity- I rarely get to come across it.

I didn't realize you had a stroke! I am so sorry. I am glad you are better.

I am curious as to HOW using your cane and your pain level caused your stroke.

Blood pools???

coming back to carrollton after spending 4 days on the beach.. I do not like being landlocked..

I think just pain causes a stress on the system, right?

I yield back the balance of my time to the chair.

I am trying to save my face here...within myself I came up with these thoughts so I can go on with self confidence. I believe these things to be true SG.

I don't think I addressed this to my comfort level because I didn't go out with someone 'abusive' to begin with. Does anyone?
His mild passive aggressive traits were putting him on the friendship tract with me. He was good to my kid.


I worry that you would get involved with someone with so little to offer

about "the most glarring omission being any integrity"




How would I have known that before this occured?

We never fought !


We never fought...not in 8 or 9 months. This wasn't something I put up with. It was a bizzare one time happening.

We were good friends. ( I thought ) I thought we were moving into good friend territory where it should have been. We were old enough and mature enough to accomodate and modify the relationship ( thought) I couldn't have known those things before the fact because the behavior like that wasn't anything that had happened before.

I spoke my mind. I didn't swear or yell. This fact tells me he was guilty and deflecting...the cowardly breakup happened after.

As for any reasons of his deficiet of character before the break up told me we were better friends so I think I was on the right tract?

I was establishing us as friends. I was being tolerant.

When I could not tolerate rude behavoir that is when the shizzle hit the fan. I could not have known that from the 9 months prior.

I think my judgement is pretty good considering the facts.

He contrived a breakup. I didn't see it comming. Yes he was a cheap bastard but what guy isn't?

I beg your pardon? Would you care to explain just what constitutes being a "cheap bastard"?

ahh lol.....ah no not really. :blush:

I plead the 5th on details.


.....but I'll give you a hint. I go too far in the opposite direction of not appearing financially needy. I would cut off my very nose to spite my face.
Let's just say I can be a bigger man than my cheap bastard date. lol

That doesn't explain;

I guess I'll have to retract that part Bruce :) I can't think of a good reason to stick to it.


.....but that isn't upsetting.


Today I have to type out the reasons why I am qualified for a job I am not really qualified for. Tomorrow I have a group interview. I've done panels before but not with peers. It's three and a half hours long and I am just not into it.

I am already hired as a substitute teachers assistant for the fall. I am looking for a part time steady hour position within that and have more confidence that this is the way I should go. The other job is a crap shoot. It's like playing the lottery. If I go I go just for the experience. :(

I am truly upset. I was expecting my certification letter in the mail. I just got a letter from the state ed dept explaining that I wouldn't be getting my certification until I take a super secret extra-special test. A test which will not be available until August. I've worked within the system. I drove almost 2 hours one way for a full semester after graduation to finish all my requirements. The cert officer at the Uni said I was all done. The system was bad enough when the democrats owned it but now that the GOP connected ETS is in the mix any wavering off the normal path is punished... severely.

That sucks, Griff. Has anyone else ever heard of the super secret test?

I'm sorry Griff. Will this affect your employment situation (i.e., are you on a normal "school" cycle that starts in August/September or is your type of job year-round?)

What's upsetting me tonight is I tried to make a new fried-fish-thing recipe for dinner and it failed spectacularly. I mean really spectacularly; it was only barely edible.

My certification officer is in China so a quick answer on this is not coming. If I have to take the test, it is in leau of a PA form that was to have been filled out during student teaching. Unfortunately, I student taught through a NY school. I had a further student teaching requirement through the PA uni but I guess that when I did it the form wasn't part of the normal mix or wasn't filled out. I can understand how my cert officer dropped the ball because the state rules are a morass, but I specifically asked about this test and was assured that it was not necessary for certification.

At this point I was supposed to have my PA cert in hand. My interviews in New York State have been based on the assumtion that my PA cert was pending and I could seek NY cert based on that. I could be hired if the school wants to fight with the NY dept of Ed saying that a QUALIFIED candidate was unavailable. Yes I do have a Masters of Ed in Special Ed but not taking GWB's major donor's test makes me unqualified to teach in the field.

I'm no longer upset. I'm back in that familiar place of resignation. I will do whatever the man says... Note: If I take this test it will be my sixth ETS test this year @ 50 to 115 bucks per. At least they were all very easy, you know, meaningless.

This too shall pass... you'll be cracking the whip and putting the little vermin though their paces before you know it, Griff.

I broke the passenger side mirror on my brother's truck while using it today. Fortunately, it's a simple mirror--no heating or electronics. But it's still gonna cost me just under $100 to fix it. :(

Sprint.... man, where to start!

well Griff, at least you know you'll pass the thing when it comes!At least you didn't take up chef school and that fish dish was your final.:p

That sucks, bro. Hopefully, this will be the last hurdle you have to jump...for a while, anyway. :)

Thanks for the kind words all.:)

HLJ & Wolf - are hatin'

jester - I'm sorry if I was evil. First I insult Perry Winkle, now you. I'm just going to unplug my keyboard and restrict myself to mouse operation.

Damn it. Possible TMI -->Not only did I get my period again, it came early. Grrrr.

puleeeze - if that's the worst i get from you guys, i'm in great shape;)

of course, i haven't been trashed by lj yet, so......

HLJ? Whadja do now?

To LR Crap. Aren't you trying to conceive? Bummer.

I made a joke that was not nice. See here, posts 274 to 277. But I think wolf was serious.

Oh. (stifles giggle.)

Tha' Goo.
And I have another sleep test tonight. I hate them.

Sorry, LR. I totally feel your pain.

Are you taking anything LR? Like Vitex Agnus....its awesome for helping with these things.

Morons. Refer to Flint's thread in Technology, and know that I posted my comment to that before this shit occurred.

After a very painful upgrade to our college wide system, I've finally worked the bugs out of my processes and can TRY to get caught up. So I'm running about 12 letters. Our tiny little department printer is in use, by Idiot. I ask Idiot how many letters she was planning to run. Duh, she says, blank and stupid looking, SEVEN HUNDRED. This is the FA printer, but of course other departments use it...no problem for small jobs. It's about 10 years old and very small. There is a BIG printer for use in our suite for BIG jobs. But, but, she couldn't get it to work. So I set it up to run my measly fucking 12 letters on letterhead. Gee, I could figure it out.

This is the dumbass who once sent about 800 letters out with the printing SO fucked up that students were calling saying if they HAD been thinking about taking classes here they had changed their minds because we're not sharp enough to send out a legible letter. This is also the dumb bitch who sent out an email to everyone on campus explaining her fuck up, complete with the sentence "Sorry for the incontinence" She invites people to "set" on the couch we give away at a basketball game every year. She created a communications code that said "dipolma miled." Those words came up for hundreds of students who needed that code in comm management.

Her title? Communications Specialist.

And she is SO far up the VP's ass that it's OK to "incontinent" the rest of the suite.

I just HAD to vent. God I hate stupid people. And I was doing SO good after vacation.

I'm done, thanks for letting me share. :eek: :rolleyes:

HUGS! [laughs! go on, you know you can!]

:redface:

I'm much better now. That woman is just so....ARGH! :)

:lol: I just remembered that I got an e-mail from a vendor once after they screwed up, sending their apologies for any incontinence I had experienced because of them.

Ain't that the shit? ;)

I hear kegels are supposed to be good for that.

;)

I'd heard that too. So, I tried it, but found out I had mis-heard it. I was trying something with bagels. Don't ask.

now, that's what I call a yeast infection!

Good one, Cloud!

(takes a humble bow)

Article found in Pub Med. Interesting. Never heard of the herb. Unfortunately, it also seems to be studied for it's psychiatric effects as well, so given my mental history doubtful I'd mess with it. Thanks for the heads up though, DN.

Forsch Komplementarmed. 1998;5(6):272-278.
Mastodynon(R) bei weiblicher Sterilität.
Gerhard I, Patek A, Monga B, Blank A, Gorkow C.

Mastodynon(R) for Female Infertility. Randomized, Placebo-Controlled, Clinical Double-Blind Study OBJECTIVE AND DESIGN: The effects of Mastodynon(R), an Agnus castus-containing preparation, were investigated in 96 women with fertility disorders in a prospective, randomized, placebo-controlled, double-blind study. PATIENTS AND METHODS: 38 women with secondary amenorrhoea, 31 women with luteal insuffciency and 27 women with idiopathic infertility received 30 drops of Mastodynon or placebo twice a day over a period of 3 months. OUTCOME MEASURE AND RESULTS: The outcome measure, which was pregnancy or spontaneous menstruation in women with amenorrhoea and pregnancy or improved concentrations of luteal hormones in both other groups, was achieved in 31 out of 66 women who were suitable for evaluation. It was achieved more often in the Mastodynon group compared to the placebo group (57.6% versus 36.0%, p = 0.069). 15 women conceived during the observation period (n = 7 with amenorrhoea, n = 4 with idiopathic infertility, n = 4 with luteal insufficiency). In women with amenorrhoea or luteal insufficiency, pregnancy occurred in the Mastodynon group more than twice as often as in the placebo group. Under therapy no hormonal changes were found at a 5% significance level. Only very few undesirable drug effects were observed. CONCLUSION: In women with sterility due to secondary amenorrhoea and luteal insufficiency, a treatment with Mastodynon can be recommended over a period of 3 to 6 months.

A school in my ward is facing closure. It is almost certain that it and another school will be replaced by an academy. I have such grave misgivings about an academy for this community. The high levels of permanent exclusions, the reluctance to deal with Special Educational Needs...I'm not even going to talk about my political objections, these are are serious, operational concerns. I fear, and I hope I'm wrong, that the same children whom we have failed to reach with the comprehensive school are the ones who won't be admitted to, or retained within their local academy. I'm told there are safeguards, and that we will have input as a Local Authority into the management and ethos of the school, especially if we are co-sponsors. But...I am not wholly convinced.

That said....it is an opportunity to get a large investment into education, and a chance to give a fresh start to a deeply troubled school community. Ten years of rescue attempts and super heads. Every newspaper's favourite failing school story. It's hard to see how it can be rescued in its current form. The alternative to Academies, Building Schools for the Future has our area down for new builds in 2011 (at the earliest) and there's another school in a different community whose building is severely dilapidated which will get that first shot. The 'failing' school' (I don't like that tag, it's made improvements, just such an uphill battle) is structurally sound. It could be another 6 or 7 years to get something done in ths community if we don't accept an academy. How can I not embrace £30mil investment and a chance to break this appalling cycle?

At the end of the day, I'm just one voice in a small group within one of the stakeholders. My stance probably won't make a difference either way. But, I have to be able to look my constituents in the eye when I talk to them about this.

The #$*&% neighbor kid.
Showed up at the door last night at 7 - "Wanna see my frog?!" Has a frog in tupperware with a few blades of grass.
Showed up at the door at 10am - "Wanna see my dead frog?!" :greenface

Little shit.

My kids invited him to go raspberry picking with us - he lasted 20 minutes before he was too hot, getting attcked by too many bugs, and crying from the thorns. Just dropped his ass back off with his mommy..... grrrrrrrr.....

lol...he sounds like the kid who got thrown off the airplane!

Hopkin no!!!!!

:D

Yeah, except that was a toddler wasn't it? This kid is freakin 9!


Poor little Hopkin... :sniff:

You got more than a pint of raspberrys I hope!

mmm raspberrys ...on icecream :drool:

Long talk with my wife yesterday.
We need money.
Selling some stuff.
Having to accept limitations that I have had for some time.
Have known for a while, but the reality sucks.

Ya. We shared with Jay the Dunkin Donuts guy, and our next door neighbors, and still ended up with more than we could eat tonight.

http://pic20.picturetrail.com/VOL162.../265546041.jpg

bummer rk. I'm sorry to hear that this is added to your other woes.

I'm sorry rk.

They look lovely.

Dunkin Donuts you say? We have one right down the block. I am able to pass by it most days withought stopping in.

mmmm dunkin

Oh fuck, oh fuck, oh fuck!!

My new (3 mths old) mobile phone shat itself last nite. Which is annoying in itself, but the *oh fuck* bit is....

I will have to hand it over to some phone fixer dude to repair it ANDDDDD....its full of inappropriate pics and vids :eek:

I dont want my account manager (who is a friend of mine) to see these pics n vids!!!!

Yes, I am a dirty slurry, buts its why *y'all* love me. :cool:

I'm at work