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Clodfobble 03-19-2011 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by morethanpretty
Sadly, I would already be gone if I felt like I could afford living on my own. I'm trying to get a budget together to figure out how likely that is and I am trying to find roomies I just don't want to live with a complete stranger and don't have a large pool of friends to choose from. I cannot move back in with my parents, that would be worse.
I do truly think he's a good guy, just not the one for me. We are different on an intellectual scale and maturity.

Sounds like it would be worth it to let him stay around, then. Sure, you're kind of using him for rent money, but you'll be giving companionship and presumably sex in return. I doubt he thinks this relationship is headed towards marriage either, so as long as you're both happy enough...

Trilby 03-19-2011 08:59 AM

but...but..! Clodfobble! You know zipless fucks are harder to do for the females - esp. younger females (younger and younger they get...)

zipless fucks are fine IF you can REALLY do it and not let all those hormones mess with your head. Otherwise, use him for rent money. No sex.

casimendocina 03-19-2011 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Pete Zicato (Post 717437)
"Trust is a one time only offer."
-- Wolf

:yesnod:

Clodfobble 03-19-2011 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Brianna
Otherwise, use him for rent money. No sex.

I was gonna say no way could mtp get away with that, having already had sex with him before... but then I was thinking, she could do something like, "You have to prove you really care about me, and not just the sex. So you can come back, but no sex for 3 months."

Mind you, this isn't an agreement I'd be able to adhere to myself, but I'm not particularly emotional about sex like that. It might work.

footfootfoot 03-19-2011 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble (Post 717474)
Sounds like it would be worth it to let him stay around, then. Sure, you're kind of using him for rent money, but you'll be giving companionship and presumably sex in return. I doubt he thinks this relationship is headed towards marriage either, so as long as you're both happy enough and use birth control religiously

FTFY

Griff 03-19-2011 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble (Post 717489)
I was gonna say no way could mtp get away with that, having already had sex with him before... but then I was thinking, she could do something like, "You have to prove you really care about me, and not just the sex. So you can come back, but no sex for 3 months."

The sex as a weapon gambit is part of something that MTP is probably rejecting. She has to make her own call on recreational activities, but needs to remember that he will get sex somewhere so using him for rent money without a sexual relationship means he will be bringing women home. Maybe a sit-down to get real about their relationship is in order. "We are roomies nothing more", would be my advice, but I'm just some dude on the web.

morethanpretty 03-19-2011 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble (Post 717474)
Sounds like it would be worth it to let him stay around, then. Sure, you're kind of using him for rent money, but you'll be giving companionship and presumably sex in return. I doubt he thinks this relationship is headed towards marriage either, so as long as you're both happy enough...

For now, I'm going to try to work it out while looking into an escape plan. If he is the best choice, I will stay. I'm not trying to use him, although that is what it seems, but I think its a mutual beneficial situation.

Clodfobble 03-19-2011 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Griff
The sex as a weapon gambit is part of something that MTP is probably rejecting. She has to make her own call on recreational activities, but needs to remember that he will get sex somewhere so using him for rent money without a sexual relationship means he will be bringing women home. Maybe a sit-down to get real about their relationship is in order. "We are roomies nothing more", would be my advice, but I'm just some dude on the web.

Oh sure, go the mature and responsible route. ;)

monster 03-19-2011 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 717435)
Where's the like button?

How to find the like button

Griff 03-19-2011 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble (Post 717507)
Oh sure, go the mature and responsible route. ;)

Sorry, won't happen again.

footfootfoot 03-19-2011 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by monster (Post 717508)

What's wrong with a kiss, boy? Hmm? Why not start her off with a nice kiss? ... You don't have to go leaping straight for the clitoris like a bull at a gate. Give her a kiss, boy.

skysidhe 03-19-2011 11:49 AM

Why does HE want to work it out? Tell him he can come back as a roomy. No sex.

There is only one reason a person wants to have sex with someone they tried to manipulate into changing and then subsequently dumping.

Tell him he can live there but to go jump someone else, or more politely, you should both see other people, if there is really anything to work out. I would not make myself available for more hurt. On the other hand, being unavailable will make you more attractive and so, he might do some heroic deed as foot mentioned. If not then he'll just be satisfied with his flop house. I believe that is all he wants is a nice comfy place to go flop and if offered a nice warm body too.

footfootfoot 03-19-2011 11:53 AM

What Sky said, and is it just me or don't you guys think that a prereq for a good roomy is that they are willing and able to pay part of the rent and not hit up their girlfriend for fundage?

SamIam 03-19-2011 12:05 PM

I couldn't sleep last night - got maybe 3 hours, and now I have to go in and work a 14 hour shift. :coffee2: 10:00 pm is a 1,000 years away.

footfootfoot 03-19-2011 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by SamIam (Post 717525)
I couldn't sleep last night - got maybe 3 hours, and now I have to go in and work a 14 hour shift. :coffee2: 10:00 pm is a 1,000 years away.

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