I'll bite your toe off.

Ok kids, go outside and play now...:D

Anon -
If you have stayed in this relationship, and intend to continue, please go and get yourself checked for anything that he may have "brought home". Your health, physically as well as mentally, is the most inportant thing now. At some point, you will come to a decision as to what is best for YOU. I hope that you will finally make peace with your situation, one way or the other.

I feel for ya there.


sneaky,caculated...and wanting to try on the playboy role.

I think they already gave pretty good reasons to split.It's a matter of self respect. You were not treated with dignity, respect or honesty so no loyalty should be comming to a scoundrel.

Hi! I'm new to the cellar, I'm living a situation similar to yours (when you opened the post) and I will say something about it in the post of the ring, where the theme was this more or less.

Now, as I feel very close to you, and it's extraordinary how I could have written the things you wrote, I sincerely think you are not in love with this man. Forgive me if I'm brutal, you asked for this at the beginning, and everybody was very sincere in fact! but this is not love. you need him, you can't imagine living without him, his embrace and his smile and his breath and so on, but this is not love. Definitely. And you will see it when you take distance, even if now you're probably thinking I'm a bitch and I don't know anything, and this is true. This is just my opinion. If your nature is not to have an open relation and you force yourself into it, you will only be more frustrated because you won't like it. If you keep going with a man that lies, that simulates so good you had to discover by chance with no one single sign of something going wrong, then there is something big soooo wrong!

I myself, I'm not having the balls to do it, so here in Italy you would say I'm the bull saying horny to the donkey, but still I know it is the only possibility for my life and my dignity not to be destroyed, and I will do act.

We're not kids.... we're 19 year old adult males biooootch :nadkick:

Yeah, you tell 'em. The nerve of nowhereman calling you kids, just because you were acting like children.

VERY rude behavior posting such nonsense in a thread made by someone obviously hurting and asking for help.

Like giving someone with colon cancer a whoopee cushion.

:redface:

Why should he even contemplate life without you? You've shown no to propensity to leave. You've even offered to compromise. He knows he's got you wrapped around his finger.

You say your sex life is great, meaning you're satisfied with it but it would appear he has different standards. I've had many people gush to me how good their life is, with their spouse in the background rolling their eyes.

Or what he's doing on the net he doesn't consider part of his sex life, but a game. Like any other online game, but winning by scoring pictures and proposals. Just a hobby without regard for the emotional toll on his supposedly significant other.

I think that you're probably weighing the possibility of just letting it slide. Weighing what you feel you have vs it's emotional toll.
Don't do it. While you might be able to rationalize the trade off now, there is no guarantee things won't change. It will always gnaw at you and more important, his needs will change.... probably not for the better.

I wish you well.

Cloud are you kidding me, it happens all the time in serious threads. Sorry though...

We regular Cellar Dwellars may "get" it--but she's not. she just came here to get help with one problem, so yeah, I thought it was rude.

I mean--don't you?

I suppose, but same thing happened to me when I first started posting my relationships problems.

At the time, it didn't seem rude but over speculation that point can be made. Sorry for that, but it's behavior no different from anywhere else in the Cellar.

Good thing that wasn't a joke. :neutral:

wouldn't be very nice, would it?

I don't know if it is in my nature to have an open relationship as i have never tried. The idea doesnt excite me on the surface, but i did spend about 6 months with a couple in my early 20's and they taught me alot

I was a little disappointed because i was excited about the solace I would find, but it doesn't upset me. Thank you for looking out. I am hurt and looking for answers.