I'm sorry about ur stone.

Dating? After one year? Are you insane?

Your mileage may vary. Enjoy yourself. :)

Taking the kids back to their moms place always bums my stone.

It was I'll advised to be sure. I've simply prolonged the inevitable. I had plugged a hole I felt. Better idea to let the hole heal on it's own. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.

Jim, sorry it hurts, but better that than lies and deception. No? is there a perfect way to do it?

I'm still sick. That's bumming my stone. And it's even more bummed after reading through this thread.

How about an automobile? :blush:
Nobody deserves that.

Or that either. :(

I know that's right.

I'm gonna armor myself in solitude for a while, I think. take care of the things I have been postponing, and clean up the mess I've made of my life in general. I don't need help distracting myself.



be a solitary man....

Cash nails it.

It'll get better, jim. I was solitary for a long time, wouldn't date or hook-up or anything. When I did "jump back in" so to speak I apparently wasn't ready because I made a couple really bad choices.

I'm still solitary location-wise though there is someone in my life I care about who lives too far away. Maybe that's one way I can be very very careful still.

I wouldn't recommend my style of "easing back in" because I think people do need other people. We just have to be very careful if we're getting what we need or what we think we need, and it takes time to sort out "you."

:comfort:

Thanks L

srsly.

I have a couple good buddies that I can rap with if I need it. And then there's youse guise. and my mom still thinks I'm cool... so, I've got that going for me.

Which is nice.

(I just can't help it. I thought I could resist in type form, but apparently I cannot.)

Jim, I am sorry you are going through this. That is probably something I said to you before, but I say it again, because I mean it again.

Solitary time is good for you. I wish I had done that before. I am fortunate that my relationship has survived the turmoil that goes with that period right after a major breakup with someone else. Everyone says you should wait and heal, and I didn't do that. I recommend it, though. I think you will thank yourself later and be much much stronger for it.

It was five years after I broke up with my older boys father before I met Dazza. It was good having that time to sort myself out, but in saying that, there were certainly a number of dalliances to spice up the journey though. Solitude might be good for healing, but the human touch has some pretty magical qualities also.

It felt very good to have some affection after the crash ending of my marriage. I realized that even during my marriage I was not getting much of it. So, yeah.. pretty magical. I turned a blind eye to everything else, I think. I guess its a balance we need to find, like everything.

You can't bake a cake with only one ingredient. ;)