Foreplay is abso-friggin-loutely required. And it's got to be good foreplay. None of that half-ass, indifferent, let's get to the main event stuff...

Sidhe

you're saying that you never like to just be taken? thrown over the arm of the couch and hammered? or tossed up on the kitchen table, your clothes torn off, and hair pulled?

or would that qualify as foreplay?

time and a place. variety is the spice of life

Well, now, that would depend on my mood. Sometimes straight-up jungle-fucking (for those who remember Stephanie Hodge) is a good thing, but for the most part, my excitement threshhold is too high for that to do it for me *shrug*. I guess I'm high-maintenence that way.

Sidhe

As sexy as hell as that all sounds, some of us aren't so...um..er...athletically inclined, if you will, to have porn-like sex, but what we ARE able to do, does the job just fine, thanks! :D

It really just sounds like to much work...
 

throwing over the arm of the couch, hammering, throwing onto the table, ripping clothes off....UGH.....far to time consuming..

Morning sex..ya roll over, your both half naked and ya go to town....

:doit:



Later :rattat:

Re: It really just sounds like to much work...
 

Hrm...what was that movie with Michael Douglas where he bent his wife over the backend of the couch, lifted her skirt, ripped off her panties, and proceeded to jackhammer her from behind..was that Fatal Attraction?

Clothes were off, and the deed was done in less than 2 minutes tops (IIRC). :D

My second favourite subject!

Foreplay can be better than sex. Like so many things in this life - the build-up exceeds the event. Why do you think phrases like 'the thrill of the chase' enter our vernacular - it applies to foreplay too, and there is nothing more thrilling or exciting than Anticipation, and yes it deserves a capital 'A'. Which is not to detract from sex itself, because it is my best hobby and if I could do it all day every day I would. Someone said earlier that foreplay starts way before actual touching and I can't agree more. I also love the 'throw-me-against-the-wall-and-take-me-now' sex - but of course this is preceeded by foreplay of the non-physical kind, so those who deny the importance of foreplay should look a little closer at its definition.

What type of non-physical foreplay are you talking about with the "throw-me-against-the-wall-and-take-me-now" sex?

I'm curious from a practical point of view. The guy is in the mood, his partner is watching "American Idol," he goes over to her and starts ripping her clothes off? Is that how it works?

It seems to me that if one person is in a state of being in the mood, and the other person is in the state of being oblivious and doing something else, there has to be a period of time that one has to change the other's state. Or is the "taking me now" the only time needed to get the other person in the right frame of mind?

Re: Re: It really just sounds like to much work...
 

I don't THINK she was his wife... anyway, she was played by Jeanne Tripplehorn. :yum:

I can't comment for other women, but 'oblivious' or 'not in the mood' for me are extremely transient states of mind and can be quickly transformed into 'very interested' or 'most definitely in the mood' by a simple look or touch... of course this depends on the partner - if you have a natural unhindered raw attraction to them you're generally on heat all the time anyway, so doesn't take much. For the more 'long-term' relationships, I agree it's all too easy to be distracted by serial bouts of trash-TV-watching-and-other-avoidance-tactics, but if you know what turns a partner on quickly, a 'red button' if you like, there's no reason why foreplay can't be fast and to the point, with no 'messin' around'.

Yeah, what she said!!

And yes, foreplay involves all the work done BEFORE sex. Anyone can just have sex (or just fucking for fucking's sake).

Man, I have *got* to check in on this thread more often...