Yeah I do, and it shits me that I've lost control of my reason.

I'm gonna make a change though. I'm physically working on being conscious of every thought (if that's possible) and marshalling the dumb ones to the dunce corner for punishment.

Husband may be losing his job today...not sure but about 80% sure on it and just the idea of it is upsetting, since we are about to move again and I don't have a job. :(

I hope you're wrong case. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you all.

Thanks, Ali. I hope I am wrong too.

Ach damn, case, I hope you're wrong too. Keep us posted. And good luck.

we need some good news, people! YIKES!

husband didn't lose his job at the "special meeting" today. that's pretty good news. but there's always tomorrow.... 6,400 to go.... *sigh*

Still being determined. He's been moved from the hospital near his home to one in the City, which usually means "really scary" as far as prognosis is concerned. Last piece of info was probably not operable, but that didn't rule out other interventions. Finding out more day by day, really.

Relax. It is almost over. Keep yourself busy.

It's hard to respond to just one trouble so I'll just say I wish the best outcomes for those who need one.

I understand about budget cuts. We are going through those as well. I understand about loss of income or reduction of work. I've been there and could be there in the future. Who knows what is in store. Just hold on.

Thankfully, false alarm for us!

yey! good news Case:)

Ditto! Great!!!!

Thanks! I feel better, now that I can breathe. I still am going to get a job, though, once we move again.

Move AGAIN ????
Chick WTF ??!!
I thought you guys just moved to that SWEET Mountin Challet !!

Yes, I know...it is WTF...now I am going to cry. :(

Srsly.

But actually, we do have to move for health and financial reasons.

Sorry to hear that case. Hope it all works out for you. It is just bricks and wood and nails and stuff. There will be another.

Thanks, Merc. Yes, you are right...its just a house. No big deal. And the packing is halfway done...because we never unpacked half our stuff!

Good luck and hang in there, case! :)

Sorry case. :(

It is definitely not what I would want for you guys. Maybe you guys could somehow make this a better opportunity for you both. I know. That sounds lame.

hugs.

Thanks, you guys. Yes, I know it will be a good opportunity. We will be closer to family and back close to a lot of my old friends. It will be nice to have some social interaction on a regular basis. The commute will be less hellish for husband and the house we are moving into is really pretty nice...not smoothmoniker/radar nice...nor is it case's cute chalet nice...just nice. It is also near a bunch of little lakes and a golf course, if you like that sort of thing.

sounds nice. Sorry you are losing the mountain retreat but this new place sounds more livable.

Thanks, Glatt. Yes, it is more livable.

Now I need to stop infecting this thread with my annoying whining and get back to packing!

Case, is your new house going to be in the Tequila's vicinity? We could meet for dinner so you can update me on your situation.

Fish tacos, mmm.

P.S. I don't think it's possible to infect this thread with whining.

Another close call: homegirl almost lost her job due to a clerical error...

PAGING MR. LOWRY...

Um.

The wife of my "friend" somehow got my name and number and called me and left a kinda slurry message on my machine. Something like, "you can keep him," and all but, hey! I don't want him! She's the game-keeper, not me!

Oops.

(waits for lashing from all the holier-than-thou cellarites with a cringed look on my face and my head in ready-to-duck mode)

Yikes. Be careful. Kick her in the cunt if you have to, say it was self defense...

Really though, be careful. Hell hath no fury and all.

Ouch Bri. That's way too serious for funland.

Bri. Be careful, k?

And remember we luv you.

No, actually, the new house is in Windsor. But, perhaps there will be a time when we can meet at Tequilas before we move. I am craving the fish tacos, now.

The Poo Poo Pee Pee Puppies... and by that I mean the boy child who has angry butt and is teathing which combined makes him ever so plesant to be around and the girl child who is potty training all over my floor.

Oh no, oh no, oh no!!!

I was on the phone with the wife telling her not to throw away her marriage and while I was talking to her, HE beeped in and said, "If I get divorced, can I move in with you? Some crazy shit is going on," and I'm like, OMG.

This guy CANNOT move in with me. WHAT should I do? Tell the wife he called me just now? Or hope nothing happens and they make up? (I told the wife nothing except he had called me...) Hoyboy.

I talked to my sponsor. I'm cool.

Wow - I'm having mixed feelings about this. I feel sad for you that you are dealing with such a negative effed up situation. I also have the "You gotta sleep in the bed you made" sort of feeling and I feel sad for the wife.
IIRC though, you knew he was married and your attitude about the whole situation was very different when it was all fun & games. Now that its real and "in your face" it sucks bigtime.

What do you do? I got no idea - Apparently you were "just having fun" - then tell him to go away, delete/block his #'s from your phones, apologize profusely to the wife & move to Budapest.

Are there kids involved? How long have you been seeing him? Does any of this matter, really? - I dunno - just trying to get a better overall picture of the situation.

@classicman.

This is not the professor guy, just in case you are mixed up.

This is a man I've known for about 10 years. I was dating him when he cheated on me and I was done with him. He then got married. We worked at the same place (tho far, far away from each other--like MILES away) but he could still (and did) come in to see me from time to time.

I moved. He found me. He called, he came over. I had no feelings for him and I still don't. Yeah, I had sex with him. Yeah, I shouldn't have. I didn't mean/want or intend the wife to find out but she did...NO KIDS involved.

I told her I will not see him again and I mean it. That doesn't mean he isn't seeing "girlfriends" all over the place, though. He's like that.

fixed that for him

serial cheater, loves chaos, loves danger in his relationships, doesn't care who it hurts...

yeah, but I'm to blame for it just as much as him.

my sponsor said to write this down: DO NOT BOTHER ME AGAIN and then stick by it and try not to be such a chaotic woman myself. she's right.

If it hadn't been you, it would have been some other woman.

You should let the wife move in with you, and both of you tell him to get lost. :haha:

That's a point, is his wife hawt? Imagine how freaked he'd be? lol

Ok, levity aside... I have a poorly Pilau. I spent the first 45 minutes of my morning disinfecting large chunks of living room and kitchen.

It cannot possibly still smell of sick. It can't. I have liberally bathed swathes of house in strong disinfectant, handwashed covers, Febreze-sprayed furniture, opened doors and windows etc etc. Two other people have been to my house and they say they can't smell anything. Me? I can't get rid of the smell.

Anyway...more important than odours and disinfectants and clean-ups, is the Poorly Pilau. He's not a happy pup. He's clearly feeling better now than he was earlier because he's scouting for food. But he was pretty laissez-faire about the whole dinner thing until I brought out the chicken and rice about half an hour ago (poorly dog food). He had a tiny portion and he's been angling for more since.

Poor babes. He must have felt really rough last night. He'd been sick like six or seven times. Worst thing is, I heard him digging the carpet and generally mooching about the place in an unsettled fashion and I ignored him because I was half asleep. It's entirely possible at some point he's scratched on the front door and I've missed it.

Not an earth shattering level of upset I realise, but there we go.

Awwww, poor Pilau. Hug him for me. :(

but not too tightly. Poor guy.

:apaw: for Pilau

Hope he is feeling better soon

Well it upsets me Dana...oooh!

Get Better Soon Pilau! Poor Buddy!!

You'll be back into your snausages soon my friend...:)

I'm torn on the blame part, I guess so, but HE is the married one, not you. Then again, you knew he was married...

Stick to the plan - He certainly isn't worth it. There are plenty of "free" fish in the sea for ya.

:fish: ?

Not really. I'm a One Wolf. I mean a Lone Woof...er, wolf.

Good wishes to all those who need good wishes, and lots of love for Pilau. I feel his pain!

I came into the ER Wednesday morning thinking I had some stress-induced indigestion, and as it turns out it was a little more serious and I'm going to end up having my gallbladder removed tomorrow morning. Being in the hospital sucks!

You don't need that pesky gallbladder anyway, Choc. Tell it good riddance for me.

gallbladder removals are pretty straight forward. My cousin had hers out and was at my wedding two days later.

You'll breeze through it choco. :)

Good luck, get well soon!

Choco! I wish you the best of luck and a speedy recovery.

Good luck Choco, keep us posted.

I had mine out about 5 years ago -- I was sore for about a week, but everything was quite straightforward. Best wishes, Chocolatl!

Boyfriend and I just had our one year anniversary on the 13th, and he gave me a gorgeous pair of emerald earrings.

I just lost one :(

It's the first piece of jewelery I've ever received from a boyfriend.

Ouch choco. Good luck honey. Oh and Pilau sends his best wishes for a speedy recovery. He knows more than most the stress of having to go to the vets so he totally understands.

John Mortimer's passing.
And even more that I had to read about it here.

I had the news on this morning, and checked the headlines in the paper shop too.
Shame that it was a post here that informed me. Shame on them I mean.

I'll probably hear about it on tonight's news. It will soften my indignation, but not my sadness.

RIP John. I'm sorry I never wrote the letter that has been my intention since reading your autobiography in my early 20's. Maybe I'd better write to Barry Humphries after all.

Coincidentally, my girlfriend just lost the claddagh I gave her during the first few months of our relationship. She's devastated. I'm not. The thing was a meaningful part of our relationship but in no way defining. It'll turn up perhaps. Either way I'm giving her another ring in the next month or so (*hint*).

We'll hit the 2-year mark on the 13th of April.

Oooooooooooooh! You saw it here first, folks!

Awww honey. That's so sad. *hugs* there will be other jewelery.


@ Perry: ohmigod, that's so exciting!

Comforting words for anyone finding them self on the wrong side or right in a relationship.

cute little symbols...where are you getting them?

You are lucky to have been diagnosed promptly.

I hope it turns up. I feel your anguish.