That sucks. You have every right to be pissed off and upset.

That said - try your best not to let that be the takeaway. It was still your goodbye - because it just was - regardless of who paid for what. Don't let them have this. This is yours and his and they don't get to take it from you just because they paid a cheque.

payment is being refused/returned by venue (donor identity unofficially confirmed) Mulled it over with friends, don't need to give this manipulative asshole any wiggle room to violate my privacy or independence or invade my life etc. fixed. And feel so much better so it was the right thing.

Shame, his wife is lovely. But weak. And apparently I can't have one without the other.

You did what you needed to do for your peace of mind. That's more important than any feelings he may have on the subject.

This. So much this.

Sent by magick

You know when you hear that someone's severe mental health issues "fell through the cracks in the system?"

Don't believe it. There is no system. It's all one giant crack.

Families can pay between $1500-$5500 per week for moderate-to-great inpatient treatment--forever--or individuals can be locked up in abhorrent public hospital conditions for a max of 10-14 days before they are sent out the door again, whether or not they are better. Permanent institutionalization almost always has to be associated with a prison sentence.

'care in the community' is a fine idea if the funding and support services are there to provide the care part of that equation.

Nobody wants institutionalization as a response to mental illness anymore - but leaving them to cope on their own and occasionally hospitalisng them when the situation becomes dangerous is not the answer.

No little green flake in m'noodles.

Funny retort embedded; but, it's not for the squeamish:

Congratulations, you've stopped picking your nose while eating!

Oh, there's the flake, right there!

Stupid finance things and being alone.

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:grouphug:

wss

*hugs*

Too much shit hitting too many fans.
1 - Oops I forgot to save for my taxes. I've been debt free for several years so having to make a payment plan with the taxman has been underlying background stress for a few months. But I'm paying it down.
2 - Husband is having major upsets over a stoopit financial clerical error which the stoopit clerk lied to him about, has confessed to management has not/will not apologise to husband, management are trying to make amends by sending out an interim cheque (ffs why not a transfer??) which has now had to be written and signed twice and there's still no sign of it at our house. All of this winds husband up a notch more and I'm repeatedly having to scrape him off the ceiling/pick him up off the floor.
3 - Our mobile holiday accommodation has sprung a leak and we're going away in it today. I was wondering how to hide this fact from husband as he doesn't need more stress but in the end confessed it to him as a far bigger piece of shit just hit a much bigger fan and I needed to offload some stress. We have high hopes of a Duct Tape fix for the weekend at least.
4 - The manager of a tiny charity facility for which I am chair of the board has made a $30,000 hole in the finances. Currently it is not clear if this is malice or illness. Hole = approx. 40% of turnover. FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK.