Love and Marriage
 

Thanks a lot. I was going to show up on Wednesday and throw rice, you party pooper.:D
Oh well, congratulations and give Steve my condolences.:p

:rolleyes:

Hopefully you'll be able to tell him yourself at the next GTG. When and where is that?

Damifino:)

OK then, Saturday at your house.:D

I am so damn envious of you Easterners at times like this. There doesn't seem to be enough Midwestern Cellarites to be worthwhile to host a gathering here.

OC...through which organization did you receive ordination? The Mrs. does legal marriages by dint of our having organized as a Missouri not-for-profit (but not tax-exempt) church, but she actually finds herself doing more non-legally binding same-sex ceremonies than anything else. She's also way too cheap. $25.00 and a pre-ceremonial organizing dinner in most cases.

And by the way...ritual *is* important, for a lot of reasons. On the other hand, no one can sanctify a union between two people besides those two people...and you seem to have done that! :)

Congrats, onyx!!

I got it here. My ordination date is September 20, 2003. The woman that married me is Wiccan, and she's taken on the title of "Ordained Priestess". I like it, and have decided to use it. I'm really a Rev. now. MUHAHAH! But seriously, the ULC is rather Wiccan at heart, in the spirit of "An ye harm none..." So I figured why not? Steve (who is kinda religious) finds it slightly offensive. I'm still trying to explain that it's a title, but he's caught up on the whole "holiness" and "religious education" thing. :rolleyes: I'll sway him eventually.

I agree ritual is important, but it's not REQUIRED. And most people don't know that. We had our own little ceremony at home, and that, more than anything, sealed the deal. :)

As I've said to others recently, congratulations/I'm sorry.

There are mitigating factors that make marriage not in our best interest right now. But even if those factors weren't there, we still wouldn't get married. We probably will eventually...but we're just not at that frame of mind right now. Things are great with us...and that's all that matters.

Bruce is going to have the next GTG at his house b/c he wants to show off his dodads. I know he wants to do this...he just hasn't come clean about it yet.

Good on you guys. If you got married exactly the way you wanted to, then you did it right. Don't let anybody give you any shit about it.

Much happiness and stuff.

When Elizabeth and I got married, we had a private ceremony (immediate family only) followed by a public reception. It worked out very well, and I think everyone enjoyed it pretty well.

Most people don't give a rat's ass about the ceremony, but sit through it, bored out of their minds, because they're "supposed to".

I'm all for bucking tradition and doing what works well for you.

And congrats, OC!

That is exactly what Britt and I did. We got married in a small ceremony with family, went on the honeymoon, then had the reception at our house when we got back. It was perfect, and everyone seemed to enjoy themselves. It's definitely better than stressing out over a big, complicated ceremony with lots of people, where if anthing goes wrong it's a disaster that ruins the wedding day!! AAAH!

OC and Steve just one-upped us and skipped even the little crap. Damn over-acheivers. :)

Woo hoo! No handfasting is complete without the consumation!

The Mrs. is also ordained through the ULC, but she chooses not to use the title of Rev., although many in our community do. Congratulations on both major events!

We eloped to the courthouse- it was necessary for our sanity's sake at the time- I dont regret that! But we never had a family party. I regret that. We've been married going on 14 years and other than the two of us, no member of my family has ever even met any member of my husband's family. Everyone lives far apart, but a ceremony would have at least made that interaction possible. Maybe someday, or maybe its really for the best!

Well maybe that's the key!? All the best!

Geo and I got married in my parent's backyard. There were some family and friends. More to the point, it was shorts and blue jeans. The "groomsmen" had on baseball hats that said "groomsmen" (my dad had two: "Father of the Bride" and "Best Man." He insisted on taking center stage to switch the hats.) and the girls had on matching canvas shoes that had beads and ribbon roses all over them. That was our matching stuff.

We got married under a canopy (tho we're not jewish) and had a big barbeque afterwards. Then we had a public picnic to celebrate. It was just as I wanted it.

On another note, the preacher who married us didn't show up on time...he was about an hour late. My dad was so desperate to get rid of me that he was on the street corner, stopping people in cars, asking them if they were ordained. Some of them were dressed fancy, but I think they were pimps and not pastors.

She just goes by her craft name in all Pagan affairs (well, except that it isn't her legal name, so our coven's non-profit status registration is in her real name, and since she is a Board member of the 501 c-3 which we work with in producing our Pagan festival, she's also listed on our incorporation documents by her real name).

She's just our High Priestess...she's never really used Reverend or Lady or the like. Personal choice on her part, is all. Sometimes I think she'd like to call herself Lady Selene, but then she decides it might make her look pretentious, and pretentious is something we just aren't...we're just plain folks, not all that terribly far removed from the trailer park save for our educations. :rolleyes:

I have to say congrats. That sounds wonderful. My man and I - we will get married eventually too. But right now buying a house is more important to us. We have also decided (when it actually happens) to go to Vegas - do the Vegas wedding thing with us, his best friend & wife, my best friend & hubby and have a blast. Then come home and have a huge party for the wedding. Neither of us are really into the whole ceramony - we are just in it for us and lots of fun with each other.

Bwahahahaha. I love it. :D

daniwong, that is almost verbatim what me and my wife did, including the small-ceremony-in-Vegas part, and it was perfect. Highly recommended approach. Just make sure your future spouse's father remembers his pants (long story).

I can imagine. My best friend & her hubby got married in a church and I was the maid of honor/coordinator of the wedding. Wedding and reception was a sinch - but that was due to her hubby and his legion of aunties. However, during the reception - his dad's band was playing and her dad - who is a professional jazz musician - got up and played. Apparently he loosened his pants to help with breathing and such. Forgot to tighten them up. Couples first slow dance. Dad walks across dance floor. Pants fall. Much laughing ensues.

After coordinating and helping with so many weddings - I don't want the fan faire, I don't want the hype. I want it to be fun and not too much work. My parents might come with us to Vegas - which would be fine. My parents are fun drunks....