Friends of the Opposite Sex
 

My friends are guys usually. I like guys but I find myself in a strange triangle. No big deal. No crisis just a new learning experience for them both. Truth be known I am neglecting my non sexual friend more which makes me feel guilty too. I've not been in this situation before where there were undercurrents of feelings comming from both sides.

How do some of you manage your relationships and please share them.
thanks....

Guy friend = guy that is waiting to fuck you.

I don't agree.

I guess since I was raised solely by a woman, I can enjoy having women as friends without having to get into their panties.

Exactly. We are not all dogs.

yes we are.

now, obviously there are no absolutes, so there are exceptions, but if we're talking about an attractive female, her single male friends ARE waiting to fuck her. they're waiting for the boyfriend to slip and piss her off so that they can console her. Howard Stern says so.

Ok... do your gobble baby...
I had many, beautiful, female friends that I did not want to fuck.
Howard would fuck a rabid hedgehog if given the right moment.

He has regreted his non actions of his last visit he said.

This is comforting.

It's only the old feeble men that come on to me at work in the most grossiest way. I think they ARE dogs.





ok ...here it goes......the 'friend' I have had for 5 years. He lives in Canada. He has visited twice. My boyfriend is my age. We are compatible. We've been going together since this summer. He wants me sexually and I want him. They both make me laugh and are outgoing. The canada friend dosn't want me sexually but seems to not appreciate me having a boyfriend either although he has lots of friends of both sexes himself. My boyfriend is a guys guy who probably wouldn't have a 'girl friend' outside of sex. Oh it's a little confusing when I think about it so I can't really wrap my head around the undercurrents to write about it clearly. sorry about that.



Well I guess neither likes to hear about the other. It seems to hurt them both. I have had boyfriends before and there wasn't this undercurrent of jealousy I am getting from the both of them.

....which is the bottom line I suppose.....


[edit- now I'll stop talking about me...I want to hear more of YOUR relationship storys]

I prefer (or used to prefer) to think of male friends as 'friends with benefits'. These days all our friends are married etc, so it's not the same, but back in the day, I guess sometimes there was sexual tension and sometimes there wasn't. If I didn't like or enjoy what I was feeling, I'd just change the dynamics. Jealousy didn't really fit into it though. I don't recall ever having to deal with that side of things.

This part jumped out at me.
Am I interpreting this correctly? "I'm not going to have sex with you, and I don't want anybody else to either."

I'm with you Steve - thats how I read it. Maybe the two guys just don't like each other.

My personal story, A female friend of mine has tried to get me into bed several times to no avail. Its not that I'm not attracted to her either - she is nice and attractive, but I am in a committed relationship and have no interest in breaking my word to my SO. I have been on the other side of that scene too many times with my ex-wife and I would never want to inflict that pain on anyone - ever. It still hurts and its been years.

Maybe he thinks her boyfriend takes too much of her time and not enough for him?

I've only had one girl "friend." I just wasn't into her.

The rest were what LJ said.

This part continues to jump out at me. Thus the confusion.

Stay committed. Or end the relationship to get with the other guy. Please don't cheat, it's wrong on all levels.