filthy's errr um...
 

true, but that's not what i want. let alone her. she's got this hang up on communication. i believe in it, so does she. however, she thinks that i should be the one to initiate it. we just talked for a couple hours on this. her premise is that i have to ask her what's going on with this or that. my premise is why can't you just come out and say what's on your mind? i have to ask? so basically if i don't ask then i don't get anything. i talk about work. both jobs. i hardly have a life right now from working almost 70 hours a week. yeah, all i have to talk about is work or maybe something i read in the paper. she has things going on in her life as well. roommate issues. but i found out today that if i don't ask her? she's not volunteering the info because she feels i'm not interested. really? ugh. women.

stupid women!


really man, sorry for you. sounds like a bitch to me.

Irony in bold. lol

Sounds Hi Maint to me

needs to be a two-way street

What everyone here says. Both parties have to work on communication, IMHO. It sounds as though she thinks that you have to do the work of both parties. :headshake

Run, don't walk, in the other direction.

Come on plthijinx, you are probably working too much for most girls wanting a relationship...you know? You can't spare much of your time or energy right now and that's what it takes a lot of. At least this one probably does.

Sorry, but I'm going to be unpopular and play a little Devil's Advocate here.

Women are constantly given the stereotype of talking too much, and specifically talking about things that the men in their lives couldn't give a crap about. It should not be surprising when someone tries to avoid being "that woman," by seeking input from the guy on what he's actually interested in hearing about.

One of the cardinal rules of being a good conversationalist is to ask the other person about themselves.

Obviously there's a line in there somewhere, between wanting some normal amount of attention from the relationship and being high-maintenance and "all about me," and I have no idea of the specifics of your relationship and where your (ex)girlfriend may actually fall on that spectrum. I'm just saying, it's not inherently bad for her to have refrained from yammering about every detail of her life when you haven't asked.

Breaking up on Facebook first is definitely no good, though.

I <3 the Clod.

thanks for everyone's input and limey? you made me :blush: ! anyway, gave it a lot of thought today at the day job. in between being jolted by 120v because of someone not wiring an extension chord right, and smashing my thumb tightening bolts on handrail bases, stabbing myself not once, but twice in the palm with a screwdriver and finally getting copper wire strand splinters in my fingers, i realized, yeah, she's right. y'all don't know the whole story and when i typed up the post i still had my defenses up. we have not talked about her very much. us time, as she puts it. our conversation, not someone else's. that's important to both sides.

oh, and i was misinformed. if i'd of looked closer i would have seen that she changed the status from in a relationship to it's complicated. pfft! i never knew that was an option! anyway. there you have it. taking a step back and realizing that, yeah, she's right.

night night all. it's oh:31 and the alarm goes off at ohhh5:15.

p.s. - not around too much and miss you guys!

filtheh

It's a bit silly really. Are they ever not complicated? hell even being single is usually complicated.

Being married is always complicated.

Amen, brutha!