HAVING TO APPEAR CHASTE...
 

my boyfriend is home--after a 6 week long idyll in Berekey--and how does one play it when one has found another...idyll???????? any comers welcome

I believe idle is what you are looking for.

And if any comers are welcome I doubt that you were.

beat me too it. damn.

here is one. when you see him, just pretend you've never met. make sure that he understands that he is clearly a complete and total stranger to you and suggest to him psychiatric care if he still thinks you had a relationship.

but there may be a better way... if i could only think of it.

Yeah I think the wrong words were used there too. But let me make sure I understand. You cheated on your boyfriend while he was out of town, and now you're asking for advice on getting away with it?

Did HE cheat on you? Or did anybody cheat on anybody? We need more juicy details...

Sorry, that's just too easy! :eyebrow:

ohfortheloveofgod---HE cheated on ME. OK? NOW is clear?

He (him) had a chicka (girl much younger than) in Berkeley. NOW. What do I do???
PS-I lovest him in formula only----but, It is still love!

How long have the two of you been dating? And how did you find out about it--on your own, or did he confess?

I personally don't really stand for that kind of stuff. I've only ever had one girlfriend cheat on me. We had only been dating for a few months, and she called from where she was to tell me ... I dumped her on the spot and haven't talked to/seen her since, though she tried to call/email me a few times. Fortunately not a huge deal.

Nor have I ever cheated on anyone (I am a man of my morals). Except once - which wasn't really cheating either.

Then stick to the formula, make him pay. Pearls, at least. :yelgreedy

Apologies, Brianna, I misunderstood.

That said, I do believe in the idea of "once a cheater, always a cheater", and the only thing a cheater deserves is another cheater. If it were me, I would leave on the spot. Even if you decide to stay, the pain of dealing with it may be too much to bear. Whatever anyone says, cheating is a form of rejection, and no one deserves to be rejected like that by someone who supposedly "loves" them.

Hate to say it, but once they cheat they almost always do it again. If it were me in this situation, I'd cut my losses and ditch the guy. You'll never be able to trust him again.

You deseve better!

Exactly. No faithful person EVER deserves to have this foisted on them. It was their fuck-up, it's their problem. As he is not a spouse, it's that much easier to do. Kick his ass out. Give yourself time. You'll find someone better, someone who wouldn't dream of doing this to you, in your own time.

you could always give him the bobbitt treatment, but the best thing would probably be to just move on. you're too good for him anyway.

thanks for being so supportive, you guys....now, i think i will go throw up and then spend 3 days in bed...