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I was apprehensive at first for just that reason. . . the hubby and I have been together for more than a decade, we've got all those set patterns and understanding of each other's motivations and suchnot, and perhaps that's adding to the fact that this whole thing isn't working out. She's not jealous of the marriage, and as far as I know, she's perfectly content just being with us. But I know that whatever happens, he and I will still be us, and if we go our seperate ways, she'll be the one 'out' so to speak. She'd been in a similar situation in the past and feels comfortable in finding a niche within our family circle. . .
I don't know if I could put myself into that situation, I would probably feel off-kilter coming into an established relationship, but everyone's different.
As far as romantic evenings, it's always a trio.
We figured to let our families know that we've got a close friend living with us and keep all the 'sordid' details to ourselves. There's no need to stress the old folks, dontchyaknow. The only ones that know the reality of it are my mother and siblings, for the most part. The stickiness of the extended family thing is buffered by the distance - we'd moved out to CO from NY to be with her. 1800 miles sure does make it easy.
It's kind of sad, but I don't think that it's going to last all that much longer. We've become a tad in debt to her while my hubby was regaining his feet in the workplace after recovering from a heart condition (long story). . . I've kind of decided that once we get her back on solid ground financially, we're going to move on. That is, if things don't shift for the better.
We'll stay in CO, though. I kinda like it here.
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