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Kitsune · 06-04-2004, 09:50 AM

Do all women have a problem with low self esteem? I know there is a fairly bad problem with women and their idea of the ideal appearance thanks to the media and advertising, but in recent years I've noticed a really disturbing trend in nearly all the girls I've dated or known as friends: it is very rare to come across one who hasn't been in some sort of abusive relationship. Even if they seem perfectly normal at first, eventually a past experience comes to the surface and you get to hear all about it. If they haven't had a boyfriend that beat them up in the past, they had an abusive father and if they didn't have an abusive father, they never knew their father because he left long before they ever got to know him. These childhood/teenage experiences usually result in a poor-spirited adult who can't seem to make good decisions or stand up for themselves. Its not only sad to see a person have to live with all of those mental burdens, its really frustrating in a relationship. In fact, it is usually what destroys it. I'm not a counsellor.

At first I just thought it was horrible luck on my part, but then I started asking my friends and they seem to indicate the same thing: a very high percentage of the girls they've known or dated were "broken" and had horribly low self esteem usually brought on by a past abusive relationship or bad family life.

Where all the normal women at?

06-04-2004, 09:50 AM	#1
Kitsune still eats dirt Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 3,031	Women and Self Esteem Do all women have a problem with low self esteem? I know there is a fairly bad problem with women and their idea of the ideal appearance thanks to the media and advertising, but in recent years I've noticed a really disturbing trend in nearly all the girls I've dated or known as friends: it is very rare to come across one who hasn't been in some sort of abusive relationship. Even if they seem perfectly normal at first, eventually a past experience comes to the surface and you get to hear all about it. If they haven't had a boyfriend that beat them up in the past, they had an abusive father and if they didn't have an abusive father, they never knew their father because he left long before they ever got to know him. These childhood/teenage experiences usually result in a poor-spirited adult who can't seem to make good decisions or stand up for themselves. Its not only sad to see a person have to live with all of those mental burdens, its really frustrating in a relationship. In fact, it is usually what destroys it. I'm not a counsellor. At first I just thought it was horrible luck on my part, but then I started asking my friends and they seem to indicate the same thing: a very high percentage of the girls they've known or dated were "broken" and had horribly low self esteem usually brought on by a past abusive relationship or bad family life. Where all the normal women at?