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Beestie · 06-04-2004, 10:41 AM

I have noticed that people that end up together "fit" together - fit in the dovetail sense - they have complimentary qualities. So, in this example, people with low-self esteem (be they male or female) end up with people who they don't think will injure them there (in their sensitive spot) - people that they feel "safe" around - people who make them feel good about themselves.

I mean, if you had some kind of vulnerability (an eye in the middle of your forehead) and had suffered as a consequence (strangers and people you cared about made fun of it) wouldn't you be attracted to someone who was perfectly fine with it or, better yet, thought it was endearing or even sexy? I think that is the longest sentence I have ever typed. Anyway, see what I am saying?

I'm guessing that there is something about the way you treat women like that that makes them like you which, in turn makes them attractive to you. The only problem with this is that if you ever do "fix" the person - restore their self-esteem - then what brought you together in the first place (the glue) is gone and the relationship sours - usually not because you like the person less but because they like you less. Funny how that works but I've seen it many times.

06-04-2004, 10:41 AM	#9
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	I have noticed that people that end up together "fit" together - fit in the dovetail sense - they have complimentary qualities. So, in this example, people with low-self esteem (be they male or female) end up with people who they don't think will injure them there (in their sensitive spot) - people that they feel "safe" around - people who make them feel good about themselves. I mean, if you had some kind of vulnerability (an eye in the middle of your forehead) and had suffered as a consequence (strangers and people you cared about made fun of it) wouldn't you be attracted to someone who was perfectly fine with it or, better yet, thought it was endearing or even sexy? I think that is the longest sentence I have ever typed. Anyway, see what I am saying? I'm guessing that there is something about the way you treat women like that that makes them like you which, in turn makes them attractive to you. The only problem with this is that if you ever do "fix" the person - restore their self-esteem - then what brought you together in the first place (the glue) is gone and the relationship sours - usually not because you like the person less but because they like you less. Funny how that works but I've seen it many times. __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦