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Clodfobble · 06-10-2004, 04:29 PM

So, if we went by HIS opinion (of not wanting the baby), he gets out of paying support and if we went by HER opinion (wanting to keep the baby), he STILL gets out of paying support????

He also doesn't ever get to see his children, which is a horrifying thought to many men.

Also, I think many women are not well-informed about how visitation and child support work when they file that paternity suit. I know several women who, had they known how hard visitation would be for them--that is, to have their kids frequently sleeping somewhere else, and come back talking about the new thing dad bought them or their new stepmother or the violent movie they were allowed to watch--they would have never told the man they were pregnant at all, they would have just quietly broken up with him and lived their own life with their child, without support payments.

I agree with DanaC that there are hormonal imbalances that cause women to make irrational decisions to keep the children despite the life they can expect, but I think if families and friends looked more favorably on adoption it would help.

06-10-2004, 04:29 PM	#7
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	So, if we went by HIS opinion (of not wanting the baby), he gets out of paying support and if we went by HER opinion (wanting to keep the baby), he STILL gets out of paying support???? He also doesn't ever get to see his children, which is a horrifying thought to many men. Also, I think many women are not well-informed about how visitation and child support work when they file that paternity suit. I know several women who, had they known how hard visitation would be for them--that is, to have their kids frequently sleeping somewhere else, and come back talking about the new thing dad bought them or their new stepmother or the violent movie they were allowed to watch--they would have never told the man they were pregnant at all, they would have just quietly broken up with him and lived their own life with their child, without support payments. I agree with DanaC that there are hormonal imbalances that cause women to make irrational decisions to keep the children despite the life they can expect, but I think if families and friends looked more favorably on adoption it would help.