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So why should the woman be the only one who has to take responsibility?
Because she does not HAVE to take responsibility. She CHOOSES not to give the child up for adoption.
Perhaps if the men started taking their responsibilities, there wouldn't be so many single mothers out there, hm?
It's a little ridiculous to assume that all these single mothers are just pining for their ex-boyfriends to marry them and the men are refusing. Many (if not most) of the women don't want to be married to that man either.
Not all single mothers are welfare deadbeats. Some are divorced, some were abandoned, etc. If she IS on birth control, and accidentally gets pregnant, then it's not like she didn't take precautions.
I agree. But first, I'm only talking about babies out of wedlock here, divorced parents were already both involved in their children's lives and therefore continued visitation with both is highly desirable. And second, if she DID take precautions, then so did he, it's nobody's fault. And society "takes precautions" in that it provides the opportunity for adoption. Her decision not to give the baby up for adoption, though, is not taking advantage of those precautions, just as if she had chosen not to take birth control in the first place. It therefore becomes her responsibility.
Why make the child suffer?
If the child were put up for adoption it would (in all likelihood) not suffer. While foster care is riddled with abuse, adoptions usually go extremely well--because there is no money received by the person who keeps the child. When money is involved, people begin to act selfishly.
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