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WHAT?? Hormonal imbalances? Irrational decisions? Guess it never occurred to you that the woman might LOVE her child DESPITE the fact that caring for that child alone may be a hardship? That isn't an irrational decision caused by hormonal imbalances.
Yes, of course they love the children. I didn't mean to imply that they didn't. What I'm saying is when deciding whether to keep the baby, the "hardship" they are considering is tempered with "Well, I'll just make him pay child support" instead of "I'm really going to have to go it alone here."
Many, many women who have decided to give their children up for adoption change their mind when it's born, because of the hormonal changes and the innate maternal bonding. They rationalize all the ways it's better for THEM (the mothers) to keep the baby after all, instead of remembering what led them to decide to adopt in the first place, that they do not have the financial/emotional/whatever capacity to raise this child and that the child will suffer because of this.
So do you propose that men can just go along screwing around, leaving fatherless children behind, and it's the mother's fault that she doesn't abort or give the child up?
It's not her fault. It's her choice. She'd better get used to considering the child's welfare when she makes decisions, even if they're hard for her to make (i.e., giving up her child for her child's sake).
And please, I'm only talking about adoption.
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