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Clodfobble · 06-10-2004, 08:23 PM

just as paying a lifetime welfare mother more for every child she has encourages her to have litters..

So disregarding for a moment where the money comes from, why does money in the form of a child support check not introduce the same impure motivations for having the child?

Giving your child up for adoption is, from the point of view of nature, unnatural (the cuckoo notwithstanding).

By that token so is birth control. Nature wants us to have a baby once a year or so from the age of 12 to the age of 45. As an intelligent, reasoning species, we are capable of determining that that isn't the best thing for people's happiness and short-term survival. Giving a child up for adoption isn't "disposing" of it, it's allowing that child to be raised in a loving two-parent environment where it will be completely wanted and never fought over--these are two people begging to be responsible for the creation of the child. There are millions of these couples. There is no way that a single mother forcing her ex to give her money can come close to equaling that.

If a woman is not capable of caring for a child on her own, then I don't believe she'll be able to care for it adequately just because she's receiving an extra couple hundred dollars a month. Meanwhile, she'll be interacting with a man she hates on a weekly basis, who likely hates her as well, and that mutual resentment will be obvious to the child and he/she will suffer because of it.

Forced child support encourages the "single mother pride," which discourages adoption, and also makes a bad situation between the parents worse, which hurts the child. I still maintain that despite the difficulty of the decision for these mothers, these children would be better off being adopted.

06-10-2004, 08:23 PM	#7
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	just as paying a lifetime welfare mother more for every child she has encourages her to have litters.. So disregarding for a moment where the money comes from, why does money in the form of a child support check not introduce the same impure motivations for having the child? Giving your child up for adoption is, from the point of view of nature, unnatural (the cuckoo notwithstanding). By that token so is birth control. Nature wants us to have a baby once a year or so from the age of 12 to the age of 45. As an intelligent, reasoning species, we are capable of determining that that isn't the best thing for people's happiness and short-term survival. Giving a child up for adoption isn't "disposing" of it, it's allowing that child to be raised in a loving two-parent environment where it will be completely wanted and never fought over--these are two people begging to be responsible for the creation of the child. There are millions of these couples. There is no way that a single mother forcing her ex to give her money can come close to equaling that. If a woman is not capable of caring for a child on her own, then I don't believe she'll be able to care for it adequately just because she's receiving an extra couple hundred dollars a month. Meanwhile, she'll be interacting with a man she hates on a weekly basis, who likely hates her as well, and that mutual resentment will be obvious to the child and he/she will suffer because of it. Forced child support encourages the "single mother pride," which discourages adoption, and also makes a bad situation between the parents worse, which hurts the child. I still maintain that despite the difficulty of the decision for these mothers, these children would be better off being adopted.