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Catwoman · 02-28-2005, 04:48 AM

I hope everything’s going well with your psychiatrist. I think I can help you (and save you $80 an hour

).

First, what is a 'problem'? Let’s try and define it.

When I do not like what is happening.
When I do not like what has happened.
When I do not like what is going to happen.

For example:

Things that have happened
- You have burst into tears at work
- You’ve had bad relationships with strangers/friends/lovers
- You have reacted emotionally to ‘little things’ that ‘shouldn’t bother you’ (who says?)
- You find yourself ‘complaining, bitching, whining and moaning about things that upset me’ (we all do that!)
- You have related well to people with Aspurges (who generally have more common sense than most)
- You have been diagnosed as ‘depressed’ by a standardised test

Things you think might happen
- You'll be diagnosed as mentally ill
- People won’t like or want you in their lives
- Life will get better if you change jobs
- You can’t change jobs because no one else will want you
- Life will get better if you exercise more
- People will think you’re whiney, weak or ‘hopeless’ for talking about your problems
- You’ll find your identity in a self-help book

Now I’m going to relieve you of these terrible burdens. The things that have happened are behind you. They do not exist any more. Gone. Say goodbye. Go on, it’s really true. You should already feel brilliant!

The things you think might happen are just thoughts. No one knows the future - it only exists in your thoughts. Reality NEVER matches up. You know when you’re afraid of something but it’s not that bad once it happens? Or when you can’t be bothered to go to the gym but enjoy yourself when you get there? All the same thing. You do not know the future.

So there's no point worrying about any of that.

Back to the present. The other source of problems is what is happening now. For example, you are in a traffic jam, and if it doesn’t start bloody moving in the next five minutes I’m going to be late for work getamoveonyoublindoldbat I have somewhere to be!

To me, this is madness. This is what everyone does. If you are mad Stacey, you’re not alone.

Why is this mad? Because you are resisting what is already happening.

Do you see the irony? It’s already happening! This is now!

So, if you can succeed in living life without reacting to what is going on around you, just observing with a slight smile on your face as you watch everyone else get exasperated with the present moment, then your problems will disappear. This is a guarantee. A quick fix and a long-term solution. Don’t waste your money on self-help books or expensive psychiatrists. Enjoy the moment!

02-28-2005, 04:48 AM	#118
Catwoman stalking a Tom Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: on the edge of the english channel Posts: 1,000	I hope everything’s going well with your psychiatrist. I think I can help you (and save you $80 an hour ). First, what is a 'problem'? Let’s try and define it. When I do not like what is happening. When I do not like what has happened. When I do not like what is going to happen. For example: Things that have happened - You have burst into tears at work - You’ve had bad relationships with strangers/friends/lovers - You have reacted emotionally to ‘little things’ that ‘shouldn’t bother you’ (who says?) - You find yourself ‘complaining, bitching, whining and moaning about things that upset me’ (we all do that!) - You have related well to people with Aspurges (who generally have more common sense than most) - You have been diagnosed as ‘depressed’ by a standardised test Things you think might happen - You'll be diagnosed as mentally ill - People won’t like or want you in their lives - Life will get better if you change jobs - You can’t change jobs because no one else will want you - Life will get better if you exercise more - People will think you’re whiney, weak or ‘hopeless’ for talking about your problems - You’ll find your identity in a self-help book Now I’m going to relieve you of these terrible burdens. The things that have happened are behind you. They do not exist any more. Gone. Say goodbye. Go on, it’s really true. You should already feel brilliant! The things you think might happen are just thoughts. No one knows the future - it only exists in your thoughts. Reality NEVER matches up. You know when you’re afraid of something but it’s not that bad once it happens? Or when you can’t be bothered to go to the gym but enjoy yourself when you get there? All the same thing. You do not know the future. So there's no point worrying about any of that. Back to the present. The other source of problems is what is happening now. For example, you are in a traffic jam, and if it doesn’t start bloody moving in the next five minutes I’m going to be late for work getamoveonyoublindoldbat I have somewhere to be! To me, this is madness. This is what everyone does. If you are mad Stacey, you’re not alone. Why is this mad? Because you are resisting what is already happening. Do you see the irony? It’s already happening! This is now! So, if you can succeed in living life without reacting to what is going on around you, just observing with a slight smile on your face as you watch everyone else get exasperated with the present moment, then your problems will disappear. This is a guarantee. A quick fix and a long-term solution. Don’t waste your money on self-help books or expensive psychiatrists. Enjoy the moment! __________________ I've decided I'm not going to have a signature anymore.