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Originally Posted by Brett's Honey
They get two days a week out. If they get caught drinking, there are consequences.
Glad you asked. Obviously I need to explore that. I was so wrapped up in MY feelings about the whole thing, I didn't think that far. You're right - he's gotta be wanting to ask for something from us......I think your input will get my thoughts going down a more constructive path now.......thanks!
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I don't know how old your son is, but he must be in his 20's-30's to have has 13 dui's and has been in treatment three times.
Most half-way hoses make A.A./N.A. meetings mandatory at leat five times per week. Also, upon arrival from pass(some do
not even have passes), they receive a urine drug screen. alcohol will show up in the body for 24 hrs.
I remeber going to jail in my 20's for DUI. I called my dad; guess what he said. You were smart enough to get in, so you must be smart enough to get out.
However, My mother being the great enabler bailed me out.
The point being, as long as an alcoholic/addict can depend on someome to get them out of their consequnces the pattern will continue.
I'm going to let the cat out of the bag. I'm sure most of you have figured it out anway. I am an alcoholic. The only way an alcoholic/addict will get sober is when the consequences become severe enough that he/she would rather be sober than high. Let me clarify that, it is according to what stage of their addiction they are in. I"ve seen a man get sober and stay that way for many years because his wife threatned to leave him. I've also seen people given the choice of jail or treatment rather go to jail.
There is a thing called intrvention. This is where people who care about the person get together, and they plan an intervention. Mother, father, spouse, girlfriend, pastor etc.... They don't let the affected person know about it. It works better, after the addicted person has just done something negative like going to jail. The intervention group gets together and each person that cares about the person tells the addict how their addiction is affecting their life.
Once again, alcoholics and addicts don't get sober and stay that way unless they want to stay sober more than use. Unless they go to prison or die.
I hope this helps. Remember as long as an addict has someone to clean up their messes, they will most likely continue in their addiction. It's called tough love! I could go on and on, but people have to make their own decisions. Hang in there!!!!!