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Originally Posted by Catwoman
Ok Onyx - what else is there? Please tell me, I'd hate it if I was missing something.
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You're not "missing" anything if you don't want kids. Some people are built for it, and some aren't (here's the part where I make sure no one gets oversensitive by pointing out that the statement was not implying anything about anyone). Some people just want children, and the reasons are as numerous as there are parents.
I've written replies to this thread trying to explain my drive to be a father several times, and was never happy enough with it to post. I'll try again.
I grew up with a father that wasn't around much. I would see him here and there, and he would throw some money my way and return to the other side of the country. His absence as a father probably taught me more about how to be one than his presence would have. So from early high school age on, I wanted to one day be a dad because I wanted to show him what a good father would be like.
Yeah, my original motivation was to "stick it to the old man".
Years went by and I learned to deal with the anger towards my father. But the drive didn't subside. I still knew I could be a great dad. I knew I could be everything my children needed me to be. I knew that if there was one thing in this world I would be good at, it was fatherhood.
There's more to say, but I'm tired of revisiting this thread and trying to put it into words. Basically, my reasons are as follows, in order:
1. Because I wanted to be a dad.
2. Because I loved my wife and knew that she would find happiness in having a child.