Very interesting post. I think we may be more similar than you think.
I am not remotely a 'people person'. In fact I can't stand the company of most people: the pettiness, stupidity, loudness. I would much rather be alone, doing whatever occurs to me at the time. Like you, I absorb beaucoup bad shit, and need time to recover.
If I spend extended periods of time with someone, they must be pretty special. Like you, perhaps, I can hang onto this, thinking 'there's no one else who understands me/gets it/I like spending time with.' Hanging on generally causes this person to leave through fright, or clouds the time you spend together because you're constantly awed/forgiving/scared of losing them.
When you watch people you don't have to talk to them, although this can be very rewarding. You don't have to 'be' anything to them, if you know what I mean. You can be a passive observer - and no one will expect anything else from you. Oh and I don't have 'innate people skills' either - you can tell by how much I tend to offend people or say things wrong here. I don't actually care though - I'm learning in the process.
Ignore the personality tests.
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Originally Posted by staceyv
I think you are lucky, cat. Your views and personality make it easy for you to be happy.
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Wow what a compliment, thanks. There's no secret or uniqueness in it though, anyone can do it. I don't have a special way of seeing the world, I try to only see what's there. How can that make anyone unhappy?
The only thing truly making you unhappy in your life is not your job, or your husband. It's the fact that you
react to the world instead of just
seeing it. You don't need that pressure of trying to work out what your role is on this planet - just watch what happens.
That probably didn't make sense. See, crap people skills.
