[Lady Sidhe]

So basically, what I understand is that she was going through everything to actually CHANGE her gender from male to female, including the operation, but in the meantime, she was putting herself forward as an out-and-out born (not born-again *grin*) FEMALE?

Hm. I can understand the guys being freaked out, but...I honestly don't know any men who would freak out so badly that they would kill the person. Maybe beat them up out of embarassment and frustration, but not kill them. I mean, if I slept with someone who looked like a man, whom I later found out was a woman, I might be kind of embarassed, but I wouldn't kill the person. It wouldn't cast any doubt on my sexual orientation, in my mind, because I THOUGHT it was a man, and for all practical purposes, it was.

It seems like only men are homicidally homophobic. Just because they slept with this person doesn't mean they're gay--they thought she was female, and the intent was to sleep with a female--but some men just don't seem to get that. And IMO, if your sexual ego/identity is that fragile....you need therapy or something.