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warch · 06-06-2002, 06:05 PM

Be sure you're ready for a kid. Be sure you really want a kid. Having taught public school, it was very good birth control, and we are child free by choice. There were, are, so many parents that just seemed to accidently reproduce, its what you do next, and I saw a lot of kids that were in some dire straights. I love kids, I'm everyone's aunt, but raising kids doesnt fit for us, and besides pressure from my Mom to be a grandma, its been an easy decision.

Moms: The only females in the family, my mother and I are polar opposites. Always have been. I'm a tom boy, under the social radar, couldnt wait to get out of the house, town, state. She's classic 50's homecoming queen, prim, proper. She was a good mom. Didnt quite get me, but I always knew she loved me. We've lived hundreds of miles apart since I was 18. In my 20s we really emotionally drifted. She was so conservative, freaking that I was a lesbian, kept sending me make-up and dresses. I couldnt stand her narrow ways, was pretty militant. A few year back it all broke. I realized I really wanted her in my life. Sure she's a freak, so am I. And I saw how incredibly vulnerable she was/is. Here I'm being all victimy and all along she's crushed because I was rude to her. (And I was very rude,I really hurt her, if not more then as much as she me. gulp) So we're better. Still want to throttle each other, but...stop, and dont.

So you want to be a parent? Keep your own experiences in mind when you do- kids deserve love, respect, guidance and time. They will be more important to you than you, and that's being a good parent.

06-06-2002, 06:05 PM	#7
warch lurkin old school Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,796	Be sure you're ready for a kid. Be sure you really want a kid. Having taught public school, it was very good birth control, and we are child free by choice. There were, are, so many parents that just seemed to accidently reproduce, its what you do next, and I saw a lot of kids that were in some dire straights. I love kids, I'm everyone's aunt, but raising kids doesnt fit for us, and besides pressure from my Mom to be a grandma, its been an easy decision. Moms: The only females in the family, my mother and I are polar opposites. Always have been. I'm a tom boy, under the social radar, couldnt wait to get out of the house, town, state. She's classic 50's homecoming queen, prim, proper. She was a good mom. Didnt quite get me, but I always knew she loved me. We've lived hundreds of miles apart since I was 18. In my 20s we really emotionally drifted. She was so conservative, freaking that I was a lesbian, kept sending me make-up and dresses. I couldnt stand her narrow ways, was pretty militant. A few year back it all broke. I realized I really wanted her in my life. Sure she's a freak, so am I. And I saw how incredibly vulnerable she was/is. Here I'm being all victimy and all along she's crushed because I was rude to her. (And I was very rude,I really hurt her, if not more then as much as she me. gulp) So we're better. Still want to throttle each other, but...stop, and dont. So you want to be a parent? Keep your own experiences in mind when you do- kids deserve love, respect, guidance and time. They will be more important to you than you, and that's being a good parent.