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In my opinion, sex before marriage can be healthy. Sorry if that ruffles feathers (and I am not advocating sexual experimentation at too young a maturity level) but I think the dillusional belief that sex is only "right" within marriage is naive. Why does there even have to be a "right" and "wrong" when it comes to sex? Sure, if your conviction is such, because of whatever ethics/morals you have, then have at it. The problem with that idea is what do you do when you are 10 years into a marriage and suddenly WANT to know what it is like to be with someone else? You are left to struggle internally over it with guilt as your overriding force. Especially if you are involved in an exclusive, monogomous marriage (which is quite likely if you have waited to have sex with your spouse.) Never fool yourself in thinking your spouse who has been your only sexual partner is the only person you will ever want sexually. I find it hard to believe that is probable. I think if one can get past their own insecurities about previous partners or current desires he/she can truly love the person they are married to, and not own them.
Of course, my experiences cause me to have my opinions on the matter, but based on those, that's really what I think.
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