[cowhead]

Why in the world would you say this is a bad idea? Young people, inexperienced in many many things in the world get married all the time. Why would you suggest that a prerequisite for a happy marriage is sexual experience?

it's my own experience.. perhaps I spoke too soon.. i apologize, I'd be the first toasting them if that's what they choose to do.

You have deftly turned her statement on its head and likewise inverted it's meaning. She DID NOT SAY that she would marry the first person she had 'relations with'. She DID SAY that she would not have sex until she was married. You may say that these two statements wind up being the same thing. But your remark implies that her plan is to marry the first person she has sex with, that marriage is a consequence of sex. Maybe that's what you're trying to say is a bad idea.

once again from personal experience... knowing the difference between love and sex can CAN take a while, I just hope she knows it.. and yes.. I phrased it badly


But I think Luna has something more consequential in mind, that despite her sexual tension, she has decided that her decison to marry someone will be based on criteria other than sex. A wise decision. As you know, and I know, sex can profoundly affect one's feelings and thoughts and actions, not always in reliable ways. I think Luna's decision to wait shows that she will not marry for sex, just the opposite of what you implied.

for the third time, I aplogize. I ought not have thrown in my two cents worth at the time. no. she ought to marry for whatever reason she see's fit.. yes. sex itself has made me do some pretty stupid things... I am older and int heory 'wiser' (alhtough not that much all told)


Sex is G-R-E-A-T but certainly not something to base a marriage on, you said so yourself. Marriage is vastly more important and enduring and complicated than sex, and that's saying a lot. Sex is a part of marriage, not the other way around

you know I agree, I wish I had married the first person I had sex with. then again I'm glad I didn't.. I don't mean to disuade (sp?) her from doing that! some good friends of mine got married at 19/20 I wish I could be that certian. never have been neve expect to be.. but!.. suffice to say I apologize for spouting off at the mouth. I ought to have thought it out a bit more.. Luna, forgive me., (no, I'm not being sarcastic. I ought not have spoken)