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Not that you asked Chimi, but then you did post to the cellar so, there ya go.

From your post above, your thereapist sounds like a noob. You and your husband don't need to go "do things" He needs to go do things that don't involve or consider you. not in a mean way, but in a "get a life" way.

What fucking pressure on you to be his world. jesus, who'd want that responsibility, no wonder you're emotionally unavailable.

"Gone to lunch, back as soon as you don't *need* me"

As for the guys who can smell a wounded relationship like cougars smelling a sick animal, would you really want to give up the candy to some ass who can only bag a wounded critter and hasn't got the stamina for the real chase?

But you aren't that kind of gal.

Maybe there is a middle ground where you don't have to ridicule and debase (let's face it though, who can't resist a good kick when they're down?) and you don't have to mollycoddle either.

Mostly, it sounds like you both need independance. Not liberty, nor license. My folks had a similar relationship to your folks. Inexplicable yes, but it worked for them. Not all of us fit into the disney model of interpersonal bliss.

Create your own theme park.

Also, please post pictures of your "firm apple heiney". I'm not exactly sure I've ever seen such a thing.