Turns out Finland
recognizes civil unions between gays, which takes care of the legal issues. If those who are so registered then decide to have a ritual, find someone to solemnize it, and call it a marriage, I'm thinking that is between them.
I'd be good with that same sort of deal here in the US. I don't really care if people want to say that a gay union isn't a real marriage, as long as they don't deprive a united same sex couple of their civil/property/benefits rights.
Looks like it is still naughty in Japan, from what I'm reading online.