Ok, the original question was what do women really think about sex?
I'd have to say that varies widely from woman to woman.
There are some that enjoy it but don't miss it much when they don't have it (my guess is they haven't really had mind-blowing sex
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There are some that can't get enough and aren't discriminate about who their partners are. Sex = sex = sex.
Some women are shy and not terribly secure in their own sexuality, so initiating it is not something they are comfortable doing.
However, I believe that most women's sexual libido is tied to their emotional state. I've often said that I need foreplay and for me, foreplay begins in my mind. Make love to my mind and heart and my body will follow. I once read a man's objection to this stated as, "You mean I have to TALK to her before I use her?!". Pffffttt...Um yeah.
Sometimes when the daily routine and stresses begin to take their toll, a plan of action is in order. Get a babysitter, find a hotel room, buy flowers, candy and champagne, and get her away from the distractions.
Write little love notes to her, do thoughtful things to show her you care, and touch her in loving (non-sexual) ways often. I simply hate it when my guy never touches me except when he wants sex. I've had partners who would snuggle up on the couch and hold my hand, and my first thought was...jeeze, here we go..he wants to get laid. Because that was the ONLY time they ever did that. I crave affection and it often turns into passion.
It's like having a beautiful show car that you store in a garage. You only take it out for special occasion drives. In between you never polish it, change the oil, put gas in it or care for the apholstery. Eventually, this vehicle will fall into disrepair and quit running. But it's a fantastic car, beautiful and I love it dearly, you say. But it needs more from you than a drive around the block now and then.
Romance -----> Sex. In long term relationships, the romance tends to fade because you've become comfortable and tend to take each other for granted. Sure you love each other very much, you're mostly happy and have a nice life. But its so easy to forget the things that brought excitement and thrills to each other early on in the courtship. Don't. Its fatal.
Clodfobble? Get it while you can..ie: now. Once the baby arrives, you'll be much too tired for sex for quite some time. I have a 10 month old and we're still not back to our normal sex life /sob.
Anyway, thats my 2 cents worth.
Stormie