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"You have to give up a large part of your life with a kid; and I guess you're doing it for the kid's sake, but then, why? Why, if all you get is another person who has to give up THEIR life for a kid? What I want to know is, who gets the life?"
You don't "give up" your life for a kid. Do your priorities shift? Absolutely. Do you set some things aside because of this? probably. But the real truth is that you gain much much more than you ever could possibly give up.
Even speaking as a single mom, (a hard row to hoe many many nights!) I can say that without my kids I'm almost frightened to think of the kind of person I would have been. My children have given me a purpose in life, and motivation to be a better human. My children have opened up a well of love in me that I never would have known otherwise.
Without my kids, I would never know what it means to completely put someone else's well being before mine - without reservation. My children have given me an amazing amount of joy just watching them grow into sentient beings who actually have their own voice, their own ideas and opinions.
Its inexplicable to those who don't have kids. This is why I become annoyed at childless people who think their pets are their children. For the most part, animals will love whoever is feeding them. Pets are great - and wonderful companions - but children are work. You put your entire self into them, and many times on a daily basis get headaches and heartaches in return. The truth is however, that the headaches and heartaches pale in comparison to the fulfillment - the shear joy that comes to you through your children.
Despite the day to day turmoil we face as parents, having children enables us to know something greater than ourselves, and as a result our lives are expanded in ways we cannot even begin to fathom. And it never stops. Give up my life? No way - I have a much richer and more fulfilled life because of my children.
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