[jaguar]

Ok sorry I didn't qualify that nearly enough. To work I think it requires open and clear communication between the kid and both parents. It can be extremely traumatic for some, but I think (and the reason you proposed for that case shows) that communication is the key, obviously its not always easy and almost always the fault of at least one of the parents, kids become weapons. I belong to a generation of divorcee kids, most of my friends parents are divorced, well over 60% easily. ‘In fact i know of only one truely happy marriage, that’s out of a lot of families. I think most kids it effects in at least subtle ways but hell, growing up is never a smooth ride and in the scheme of things it often is better than the alternative.