[mrnoodle]

re: rkzenrage

I'm not singling out either behavior. The question applies to both, as well as every other sexual behavior. Let's say I'm your partner (wink wink). If I used to like X, and it's something that you can't deal with, you better rethink our relationship. I haven't stopped liking X just because I'm hooked up with you. If I like you well enough, I might make a huge effort to stop X'ing, but that's no guarantee. If I stopped X'ing prior to meeting you, great. It's still, however, a part of me that might resurface later.

The point is, people existed prior to your knowing them, so don't expect that they are going to make wholesale changes just because you're in the picture.

With that in mind, it's perfectly acceptable to decide whether or not to date someone based on any criteria you set, whether consciously or not. It's not "unfair" or "judgemental" or anything else. It's your life, and you get to decide who's in it.