I didn't have as much participation...and I was experiencing a serious life issue. If I weren't so shameless, I wouldn't have shared.
FWIW, things were cool for her, and I seem to be okay in the light of dawn. I can't and won't wax philosophical about the big picture of Polyamory/Open Marriage/Whatever, but it is a functional and stimulating lifestyle - but it certainly isn't for everyone. In particular, it isn't advisable for primary couples who aren't actually very much in love with each other and who don't have a very stable relationship. Poly doesn't solve problems, and shouldn't be approached as such. It *can* be very difficult surmounting one's insecurities, and I certainly have a lot of those.
For us, I honestly think that it tends to make us more attentive and engaged spouses. Go figure...