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Ibram, if I may make an assessment based on what I've seen of you here... keeping in mind this is just my interpretation, and in no way a definition of how you feel... you are not gay. You seem philosophically gay, meaning you have logically concluded that in being truly tolerant, you have to accept the possibility of a male relationship for yourself as being equal to the possibility of a female relationship. You also have a healthy amount of bad experiences with what is typically considered masculine, so you deliberately shy away from that label as well.
But, in the end, I think you are straight. Your hormones are at a particularly trying point right now, and I think you may ultimately realize that the recognition of another man as being attractive is more an intellectual feeling, and does not come to the same level of intensity you will have for your girlfriend or other women who are emotionally attractive to you. You are one of those guys that women will dream about: the sensitive, caring, listening, nonprejudicial type. But there's nothing wrong with being more attracted to one thing than another, even if it seems arbitrary. I like guys with glasses, for example. It's not fair, and I certainly wouldn't write off a potential guy just because he didn't wear glasses, but in the end, I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to, and there's nothing wrong with that. But like I said, I could be completely wrong, no one can know for sure but you. But I've known a lot of gay men, and a lot of "sensitive" straight men, and you definitely seem to me to be the latter.
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