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Originally Posted by Ibram
snip~I hate everything that being masculine, that being a guy, stands for.~snip
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If you hate these "things", you must know what they are, so what does being a guy stand for?
And where did you get this information? Media portrayal? Observations? Other peoples opinions?
I hesitate to bring up your age, because I'm sure you get that quite enough. But, that said, it's important in this discussion.
Up to now, to get by, all you had to do was what you were told (more or less
) by your folks, teachers, etc. Now you've reached an age where you have to interact with the world, outside your family/friends/school, you want to know where you fit in. In order to find where you fit in, you want to be able to define yourself and that's hard.
I think the honest truth is you don't fit in....except with all the other teens that are wondering the same thing you are. Don't be fooled by your peers that think they've got it all together, they just think they do...some are in for big surprises.
You especially, being a military brat, have missed a continuity in your life that promotes some familiarity bred confidence. Maybe more so, because of your Dad's assignments aren't strictly military bases, but a lot of far flung civilian settings, so you don't have a lot of other military brats to commiserate with.
Maybe it would be better not to try to define yourself just yet. Not before you have to, anyway. Just take it as it comes..... do and act according to what you're comfortable with.... rather than what you think you must do to reaffirm some preconceived notion of who you are.
I know you are not stupid from your posts. But I am doing a lot of speculating and making judgments, about you and your life, that I have no evidence to back up.
So if I'm way off base, sorry, no offense intended, just forget it.
edit- While I was typing all that, griff slid in and nailed it with a lot less verbage.
