[CaliforniaMama]

I'm ditto-ing DuckNuts.

I have been through this WAY too many times. The reasons were always a little different, too.

In one sitch the guy thought he wanted to be more, found he didn't want to be more, but didn't want me having other friends, set me up with scumbags so he wouldn't be jealous and flaunted his own conquests in my face. Needless to say, we are no longer friends.

In another sitch, I thought we were friends, I guess he thought more. Hubby came along and we remained friends. Until the friend got married, wife got jealous and bye-bye friend.

Side note on serious relationships: Good friends always fear that a serious relationship will take the friend away and that is not unfounded. When you get serious or get married, all you want to do is be around and include that SO. It makes it hard to have other -good- friends.

So in the latest incarnation in my life, I've been married 17 years and along comes this 24 year old hunk-o-man. I'm completely smitten. He gets along well with ALL of us, so it's okay. My little heart leaps can stay right where they are with no threat and I can be good friends with this guy without threatening hubby.

But, of course, he is jealous because he doesn't get to share the stories and events we do. I feel the same about him and some of the females he works with. They get friendly, I hear the stories and my heart does a whump-thunk.

BUT, I don't share that! I let my heart be a little bit sad and a little bit happy. I'm glad hubby has friends. It is good for him. And I think he sees it the same way with me.

This is a long way into our relationship, though, but it IS possible!

You know, too, rather than jealousy, it could be a protectionist attitude on the part of Friend. He may be concerned that Boyfriend is just not good enough for you!

If Boyfriend is open to it, I would definitely have them meet. But don't expect them to be tight, especially if they are very similar in nature.

And LOVE the fact that you have good friends that care about you!!!!!