Ibram
I thought of you watching the Big Fat Quiz of the Year over the Christmas period. I've included some links so you can at least see what I mean:
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
If you're interested, the rest is on You Tube.
The participants are at the top of their tree in Britain. Check out Noel Fielding & Russell Brand. They are men. They are straight. They certainly aren't macho but have had the strength and drive to make it in a very tough field (stand up comedy and then TV comedy)
Check out David Walliams who recently swam the Channel (in the top 50 fastest times as well!) He has a gay comedy partner (Matt Lucas) but is straight. Both he and Russell are linked with a string of incredibly attractive famous women but also are not insulted when it is suggested men are attracted to them/ that they are attracted to other men.
I don't expect you to watch all the links as it's very parochial, but I hope you get what I'm trying to say. Some men - even successful and famous men - aren't like your weight-lifting back-slapping buddies. And even Goths can be funny and admired.
Get your family to move over here - just the American accent would make you exotic enough that everything else would be accepted. Okay I know you can't, but remember that there is somewhere in the world that it would happen.
Happy New Year!