I reckon you'd make me drop my chips, LJ...... (Essex girl joke - I'll explain if you can't work it out)
I like the bad place. I really do. Not all the time, obviously, but as Ali says it can be highly erotic. It's something that comes up in my fantasies quite often in fact, especially if I've had a few drinks (perhaps it's a relaxation thing).
I've only ever been there with long term partners, so there hasn't been a problem with trust - they've always known that I control the situation at the beginning or it doesn't happen at all. So I dispute the fact that a
man has to know what he's doing, as long as one of you does - ideally the person in control.
When I was a teenager, boys used to refer to it as getting your brown wings. The term I heard later was "ruined" i.e. a man would boast that he'd ruined a girl, specifically meaning he's been to her bad place. That had to be explained to me... very odd. The best term is being taken up the Claudia
