Ok kids, go outside and play now...
Anon -
If you have stayed in this relationship, and intend to continue, please go and get yourself checked for anything that he may have "brought home". Your health, physically as well as mentally, is the most inportant thing now. At some point, you will come to a decision as to what is best for YOU. I hope that you will finally make peace with your situation, one way or the other.