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smurfalicious · 07-26-2007, 08:27 AM

I'm hoping for some wisdom from those of you who have been through this, or simply may have a better perspective than I.

My daughter, Scully, is 8, bright, very inquisitive, and never forgets a goddam thing - because of this, we will begin a conversation that will last days, weeks, and sometimes months later she brings it back up again.

Up to this point, I've successfully navigated my way around any kind of sex talk with her. First, she's too young, I think. I answer her questions as they come along, but recently it's become unavoidable to have the actual penis/vagina talk. Her response to most of our talks, particularly the part about about a baby coming out of one's vagina, has been "ew, nasty". We've talked about everything but sperm/egg and the actual sex act.

Tomorrow The Man is going in for the old snip-snip. He has a 15 year old son, I have The Girl, we're not interested in further populating the planet. So, two nights ago, we talked to Scully about how there will be no wrastling or rough-housing this weekend around Rob since he is having surgery. She asked what kind of surgery, we told her basically it takes two people (most times) to have a baby, and since neither one of us want any more babies, it's much easier for Rob to have his tubes cut, than to have mine cut. She seemed rather satisfied with the answers at the time, but last night, at dinner, which is when she usually asks her most fucked up questions (so naturally the Heimlich maneuver is well practiced in my home), she asks how it is that it takes two people to make babies.

I have never been so happy to get a phone call from my mom in the middle of dinner. So we didn't have the talk, she went to bed, but I *know* this is going to come up again today or tomorrow.

I think she's too young to have the sex talk just yet. I also know that she never asks just one person a question - she'll ask me, Rob, my mom, her teacher, and once she's heard everyone's answer, then decide for herself what she thinks about it. I have raised her thus far answering her questions as they have come along.

At what age/maturity level did you have The Talk with your kid(s)?

Is telling her she's too young to know the best way to handle it?

07-26-2007, 08:27 AM	#1
smurfalicious Tool. Not the band - you are one. Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: 501 Northlake Blvd., North Palm Beach FL Posts: 329	Birds and Bees I'm hoping for some wisdom from those of you who have been through this, or simply may have a better perspective than I. My daughter, Scully, is 8, bright, very inquisitive, and never forgets a goddam thing - because of this, we will begin a conversation that will last days, weeks, and sometimes months later she brings it back up again. Up to this point, I've successfully navigated my way around any kind of sex talk with her. First, she's too young, I think. I answer her questions as they come along, but recently it's become unavoidable to have the actual penis/vagina talk. Her response to most of our talks, particularly the part about about a baby coming out of one's vagina, has been "ew, nasty". We've talked about everything but sperm/egg and the actual sex act. Tomorrow The Man is going in for the old snip-snip. He has a 15 year old son, I have The Girl, we're not interested in further populating the planet. So, two nights ago, we talked to Scully about how there will be no wrastling or rough-housing this weekend around Rob since he is having surgery. She asked what kind of surgery, we told her basically it takes two people (most times) to have a baby, and since neither one of us want any more babies, it's much easier for Rob to have his tubes cut, than to have mine cut. She seemed rather satisfied with the answers at the time, but last night, at dinner, which is when she usually asks her most fucked up questions (so naturally the Heimlich maneuver is well practiced in my home), she asks how it is that it takes two people to make babies. I have never been so happy to get a phone call from my mom in the middle of dinner. So we didn't have the talk, she went to bed, but I know this is going to come up again today or tomorrow. I think she's too young to have the sex talk just yet. I also know that she never asks just one person a question - she'll ask me, Rob, my mom, her teacher, and once she's heard everyone's answer, then decide for herself what she thinks about it. I have raised her thus far answering her questions as they have come along. At what age/maturity level did you have The Talk with your kid(s)? Is telling her she's too young to know the best way to handle it? __________________