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Originally Posted by Hime
Has anyone else noticed how easy it is to flirt when it's just harmless fun, and how hard it is when you actually hope to get something out of it? Normally I'm a total flirt, and have to actively try to not flirt when I'm in a situation where it would be inappropriate. When I am actually interested in someone, though, it's the least natural thing in the world. Drives me crazy! 
Any helpful tips from the more suave cellarites?  |
Easy to flirt?
Not no, hell no.
Young fella just above nailed it for me. Rejection sucks and I avoid it and situations that lead to it. That doesn't work, of course. I still get rejected, and it still sucks. Flirting is "ok" I guess, but I've been conditioned like one of those lab rats that gets an electric shock every time they get a food pellet. I like the interest and hate the grief that inevitably follows.
"Get something out of it?" Wha?
I'm married, and I *do* like to flirt with MrsV, and she's quite good at it, and I enjoy it in that context. Outside that context, no. Not interested, not easy, and not welcome.
I'm probably not the kind of person you were hoping to hear from though.