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Cloud · 12-07-2007, 08:35 PM

Feathers and toys are fun, but they are not panaceas. Your frustration at not being able to make her come, Perry Winkle, is coming through, and I'm sure it is to her, too.

It's understandable. Unfortunately, for women who have difficulty coming, myself included, it creates an enormous amount of pressure, and guilt, which makes things worse. Women are just wired different, and have different priorities in sex.

Take the focus off her orgasm for a while. Maybe take it off cunnilingus for a while. Concentrate on sensual touching, kissing, and fondling, without expecting her to come. Tell her to relax, and not worry about it, to just enjoy the sensations. Don't get too fancy with the feathers and stuff. Use the toys, but only one or two at a time, in a playful, fun way. Play Blind Man's Bluff in the nude.

Encourage her to touch herself in front of you (and you might reciprocate here); also encourage her to experiment with the vibrator on her own. (Most women need no encouragement in this area! but I guess for someone who's never experienced orgasm at all, she might.)

And buy yourself a copy of "Guide to Getting it On"

12-07-2007, 08:35 PM	#1031
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	Feathers and toys are fun, but they are not panaceas. Your frustration at not being able to make her come, Perry Winkle, is coming through, and I'm sure it is to her, too. It's understandable. Unfortunately, for women who have difficulty coming, myself included, it creates an enormous amount of pressure, and guilt, which makes things worse. Women are just wired different, and have different priorities in sex. Take the focus off her orgasm for a while. Maybe take it off cunnilingus for a while. Concentrate on sensual touching, kissing, and fondling, without expecting her to come. Tell her to relax, and not worry about it, to just enjoy the sensations. Don't get too fancy with the feathers and stuff. Use the toys, but only one or two at a time, in a playful, fun way. Play Blind Man's Bluff in the nude. Encourage her to touch herself in front of you (and you might reciprocate here); also encourage her to experiment with the vibrator on her own. (Most women need no encouragement in this area! but I guess for someone who's never experienced orgasm at all, she might.) And buy yourself a copy of "Guide to Getting it On" __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"