Thanks for the advice guys. Very good points.
However I'd been thinking about it all week and posting here was (probably) just a prelude to going my own sweet way!
I did email him. I put it this way "Are you on a budget btw? I am fully expecting to pay my own way, which does influence where we go pricewise, but I'd prefer somewhere with good honest food than a swish place anyway."
This was buried in other info re the places recommended to me. One would be way out of my price range anyway. May not have been the most elegant handling of the situation, but now I feel I don't have to worry.
In other news (will I ever meet someone and hope he doesn't find this?!) I went for it on the sex with a stranger front. Posted some explicit pics and a message on craigslist. Fifteen minutes and seven replies so far - although I know people only tend to respond to the ones on top of the list anyway.
Whoosh! Am all excited!
Even if I follow none of them up (set up a gmail account as advised) then I've had the rush of doing it. But I'd prefer the rush of
doing it
You can find the ad if you want to. Be warned though, it's personal if not exactly private (!) and I'm not up for sharing it with the Cellar. If you go to view it fair enough, but please don't link it.