For me it's pre and post relationship divisions. I usually turn people on to things that I like. They are "mine" even after a break-up. Even if we happened to have listened to them together. Stating that songs are "our" songs doesn't make it "ours" if I initially turned someone on to it.
If we
found something together that we experienced together, now, that might get to me. This is too rare of an occurence for me to even be concerened about. But:
People have tried to ruin
whole albums that I like, and
I came into relationships with those, therefore they are "mine", and they will not be ruined by . (Except during asian karaoke at some point maybe)
An ex, designated lots of songs to be "our songs", took my cd's with "our songs" on them, and I have never gotten those cd's back that were mine in the first place. I introduced that person to those songs, and was stripped of the c.d.'s that I am having a hard time replacing. That person died during the course of our engagement, and I will never let that person go to the grave with "my" songs. Of course it was hard not to cry at first, when I heard one of "our songs", but they were "mine" to begin with, and I claim them as my own. hah! Mine.
No one is going to ruin the music I enjoy. My music is too personally gratifying to me to let someone else ruin it.....Yea...too personal. I am glad if people can enjoy music with me....I like having things to enjoy in common! But I know the chances of my music preferences outlasting the relationship, so, you know, mine.
Gimme back.
I share too many things to let people take my songs with them. I am a stickler about that. It is a new thing for me to be a stickler about...but I am sure it is the right thing for me to do.