You know what - just opened a card from a friend and it made me laugh and put it all in perspective.
I won't delete the above post as it would be dishonest.
But for the record, birthdays shouldn't be about setting rules and expecting other people to live up to them. Birthdays should be about enjoying things yourself, and whatever else someone does for you is an added bonus - not something to bitch about.
Thanks for not smacking me upside the head Lookout